My husband and I spilt up almost a year ago. Both of us had emotional affairs and there's been a lot of back and forth nastiness since.
He has recently moved to another state and we have come to realise the feeling are still there between us both.
He wants us to move where he is and start fresh to put our family back together.
My question is .. how do kids cope with a huge move, changing schools & making new friends?
I'm torn as to what to do ...
Huge Move .
Huge Move .
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What work have you both done to repair the relationship and prevent things happening again?
I think it’s very easy to forget the hard stuff when you are living apart.
You may well still have feelings but will the relationship be healthy?
Don’t move away from your safety net for a relationship that has already failed once. You will end up stuck there and not able to move back due to not being able to move the kids. Too risky 😬
Do not move! If it doesn’t work out (and it most likely won’t work out), you will need his permission to bring the kids back to live near your support network. You could be trapped.
How on earth would a change of location repair a relationship? It won’t, it will just socially isolate you.
My mum and dad seperated when I was younger and my dad moved 6 hours away. After awhile he decided he wanted to give the marriage another go and asked our mum to move us to him and start over. Old problems and issues still there just forgotten in the time they spent apart. I was halfway through year 8 when we moved and it was bloody hard on me and my younger brother as well. 3 days after we moved into the house he had rented for all of us he asked my mum for a divorce and left. Obviously every situation is different but I would think long and hard before making any decisions. Maybe try long distance dating/getting to know one another again and go over for some holidays and see how things go. I'd also reccomend some relationship counselling because old issues and unsolved grievances don't just go away.
i wouldn't move, running isn't going to solve the problems you had. I also wouldn't put kids through that. maybe you need to learn show to be friends and communicate and co parent. feelings are not enough if you both don't work at it. counseling is probably also worth a go or you wanted to try again. If he wanted to try a again he should not have left. it's a very controlling position to take. I wouldn't go