How do you make time with your other half to be intimate when there are a few things getting in the way of that special couple time?
We have a child together and I also have one from a previous relationship.My daughter from my previous relationship is 4 and even though my partner has been around since she was 8months old..she is putting up a hell of a fight go to sleep in her own bed and stay there.Its partly my fault as when I was a single mum I would give in and let her hop in my bed.That doesn’t work now I’m in a relationship and I’m struggling to do the transition to her own bed.Due to housing and waiting for my lease to run out,my partner and I don’t live together but will be moving in together once the lease is up and into a bigger place.Daughters bed has to be in my room also which has put a damper on my sex life with my partner.
Our youngest is one year old and is still breastfed and still wakes maybe twice a night.His cot is also squished in the room.When my other half does stay over,he is a night owl and stays up later than myself and will normally fall asleep in front of the tv either by accident if my daughter isn’t in my bed or will sleep out there if I’m having trouble getting her to stay in her bed.
Now it’s not just about the sex stuff as we don’t do that with the kids in the room but I do miss cuddling and falling asleep and our whispered conversations in bed etc.
He works full time and I work part time.
It’s extremely rare that I am withyat least one child and have not had a night without any kids in over one and a half years.I do have reasonably supportive family but not really for an over night stay due to medical issues on their part.They also don’t go much on my partner and I feel that if and when I’ve asked for a babysitter if I wanted to go do something or have a night to myself..if it’s got to do with him it’s like they don’t want to.Its also about getting a brake for some me time aswell.
But the sexual things..how do you make time to have alone time with your other half when it seems impossible to do so?
Getting alone time with partner?
Getting alone time with partner?
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No offence but moving in together would prob be a start.
When you move into your new place make a big deal about decorating a special room for your daughter so she wants to stay in her big girl room.
Make a bedtime and stick to it. Routine. Bath book bed
Get down and dirty in the lounge room? Chuck a blanket and pillows on the floor. Get a spare mattress for out there and turn that into your room on nights he stays? Whispered conversations, cuddles, nookie can all be done out of a bed. Doesn’t have to be done in the bed.
I too did this with my youngest from a previous relationship. She would jump into my bed on the 5 nights he wasn’t around about 2am. When he did come over she screamed the house down when I wouldn’t let her sleep with me in the middle of the night. You say it’s housing and waiting your lease out? But you have a 1 year old?? You need a bigger rental. My daughter would scream and carry on until we eventually moved in together into a completely new house. She got a new room which was set up for her. She stopped having night terrors then it was amazing because she had some consistency in her life.
I don’t know, is there more to this situation than meets the eye?
You’ve been together since your daughter was eight months, you’ve been pregnant, had a child that is one, so that’s at least 20 months of a serious relationship and you still aren’t living together?
Whole thing sounds a bit odd to me.
Prioritise moving in together.
Our thing is we shower together almost every night. It doesn't always lead to sex but its intimate, for a couple minutes everyday we forget about the chaos of a busy house!