Has anyone gotten over cheating? I have recently found out my husband of 10 years messaging another woman he wants my forgiveness, I’m not sure if I can
Has anyone gotten over cheating? I have recently found out my husband of 10 years messaging another woman he wants my forgiveness, I’m not sure if I can
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My husband if 15 years messages other women too AS FRIENDS and I do not get jealous like you do. Sometimes there is hours of banter back and forth . Has he cheated as you say or is he just messaging female friends? You might have to explain your post as both are not the same thing.
Sorry, the messages were of meeting up for sex. I’ve never cared if has female friends that has never bothered me
This answer is so ignorant and not helpful at all. Not even an apology or delete when shown how wrong her comment is.
Is this seriously your answer? 🙄 she obviously isn't talking about friendships!
Wow! So rude!
Why even question this? He crossed a line.
Everyone knows this is not ok and yet he did it anyway. Be with someone who wont do things that jeopardise losing you.
Im sure your response Will be "but i love him"
Well honey he obviously doesnt love you the same way, and if you follow your heart and stay with him then you are just giving him permission to treat you with no respect.
Use your head with this one. Yes your heart will hurt for a while, but if you stay i guarantee he will break your heart many more times over.
You know this isn't ok, and its hard because you now have to take action but you can do soooo much better than someone who doesnt give a fuck!
I was broken hearted over finding years worth of msgs between my partner of 20+ years and a woman he worked with. Not over the msgs, over the fact that in several years he organised many breakfasts and lunches with her but the few times we'd been anywhere he bitched about too many people, crap food and hating eating in public. And he had that time for them but not 5 minutes a week for me. Nor did he once mention me, like I'm a dirty disgusting secret. He'd mentioned my things as his, even my pet as his. I learned over the years to be pretty self sufficient, I'd go to a lot of places on my own. Now that it's a case of I've been doing this thinking he had no time when in fact it was only me he didn't have time for - I'd given up my solo trips too. Just this year, a year later I've started them up again. He's trying harder but it still weighs on my mind, and I feel like it's a case of him spending time with me because I "made" him. Not because he wants to. Yours is even worse. Only you know what's in your best interests, and what he's like as a human being. If he's worth trying to work through it or if you cut him free. Good luck either way because both will hurt. Hugs from a broken mumma to another.
Nope that's just not on and if theres cause what's to say he will not act on it given half a chance I had a husband like that , forgave him and well what do you know he just simply could not help himself usual sorry story of forgiveness.. never measured up I would cut my losses now if I were you good luck
Umm how do you know this is the only time? This is the first time he got caught..
Coming from someone who has stayed with a cheater....
You may forgive but you will never forget!
I can go months, what feels like years not thinking of that time in our relationship but then memories will come back to me.
I'm the same< I'm still with my cheater but only because financially I can't put food on my table even after paying bills. He does, however puts as little as possible toward our mortgage.
I am also a DV survivor, there are some circumstances why we stay.
I found out last year that my partner of 3 years had been messaging numerous women and had sex with one of them. This is all started when our first child together was 2 weeks old.
It fucked me up for a long time, but I chose to try and work on it. Not long after, I walked away because the trust was gone and now I am the happiest I have ever been with an amazing, LOYAL and loving man.
Once the trust is gone, it will never be fully repaired. You will ALWAYS be wondering what he's doing, who he's texting, where he is, why he's taking so long - and that is SUCH a hard life to live. It is horrible. The anxiety eats you up and causes so many problems in your relationship.
I will never tell a woman to leave, but if I could do it all over again, I would have walked as soon as I found out, to save myself the heartache, anxiety and depression that came with trying to fix it.
In all honesty it is up to you to decide . Every person is different every situation is different . It does help to go talk to a psychiatrist and even better if you can go to couple’s counselling. Please go to your own though because there’s a lot of thoughts running through your head right now and they are able to help you through those thoughts
In all honesty it is up to you to decide . Every person is different every situation is different . It does help to go talk to a psychiatrist and even better if you can go to couple’s counselling. Please go to your own though because there’s a lot of thoughts running through your head right now and they are able to help you through those thoughts
I know a couple who’s husband cheated, they have 4 kids together and the wife chose to forgive. He was genuinely sorry for what he had done and that was now over 25 years ago. Relationships aren’t perfect and people make mistakes- as long as that’s what it is than sometime forgiveness is deserved. If cheating is a part of his character that’s a different story. Only you know what’s in your heart. Do what’s best for you, your sanity and your family xx
I forgave but it will always be there, it took Alot of soul searching as I asked my self do I love him for him as he was suffering depression at the time or do I only love him because he is my kids father, it took months for him fighting for me as I wanted to know that he wants to be with me or the fact that he was missing out on things with our daughter, but at the end of the day it's your choice and only you can make the decision to move on with him or without him.... good luck xx
I’m still with my partner of 8 years who physically cheated on me 4 years ago. It’s hard and not too sure I would wish it on my worst enemy. You’re always second guessing and in the 1st year i woke up screaming so many times because the betrayal was too overwhelming not only was I blamed but I was made to feel worthless. It doesn’t matter if he confessed or you found out, in the end he will either cheat on you again or he won’t but you will never truly know, can you live with that?
It’s a no go for me. I’d be out. My ex cheated & I gave him no options. I deserve more and I did find my perfect partner after that. Did you catch him or was he open and told you? I doubt he told you.?
I could never forgive or forget. There was no looking back for me once I found out. With all the excuses, crying and begging for me back. I had to become cold and heartless and say no way, I deserve so much better. I cut contact with him which made it so much easier and moved on. I eventually found the love of my life and couldn’t be happier. So glad I didn’t stay.
Sorry to hear; is his name Brett?
As I’ve only found out a guy I’ve been chatting to is married 😒
If so - run like hell he will NEVER stop