I have been with my partner for 15 years and we have 3 kids together. I have ended the relationship due to things getting messy. Pushing and shoving in fights. I know I have done the right thing in my head , but my heart still breaks. Looking for help to make sure I stay on the right path. What help you mummas out?
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Make a deal with yourself. Write down all the reasons you left, and every time you are tempted look at that list. Keep yourself busy, boredom and loneliness are danger zones. Make a mood board, about how you want your life to be, calm happy, respect, safe etc. put it on a wall where you can easily see it.
Get yourself some counselling so you can process what happened and help you stay away.
If you feel like texting him, text a friend or family member instead.
Write a list of what you want your life to be, include types of friends, activities, home location and style, travel, hobbies, job, family . Then use it to start to move thing in that direction. It can be one little thing at a time. Or huge things like studying a new path or saving.
For me, I also wrote a list of the says my ex stopped me or made it hard for me to live like this which made me unhappy. That helped to keep me on track moving forward.
Once I was happy in myself again, it's been easy. That first part is the hardest.