Is my sister using drugs again?

Anon Imperfect Mum

Is my sister using drugs again?

I don't have much to do with drugs but I need some advice.
I live with my sisters. We all share a house together my middle sister has just moved in with us after being on the other side of the country.
Now in the past she was a heavy drug user she has been quite erratic in the past but she says she's been clean for years now.
She's having some erratic behaviors again. She can be happy one day and then angry the next. All can be going well for a week then she flips she lost it at me once and she ended up pulling me by my hair to the ground. Then we go on again all normal. Then one day she comes home so happy her life is amazing she says. Then I say the wrong thing and she's tipping her coffee all over my uni work. I'm a mess at this stage, screaming at her so she throws a plate at me.
Well today we wake up and she is okay my mum comes over and they go out. I take my daughter out for lunch. We get home and then my sister comes home. She's yelling at me to move my car out of her parking spot so I do so. Then she is laughing with my daughter playing with her. Then she takes my mum aside who's ready to go back to hers and breaks down I mean sobbing.
The night goes on my mum stays for dinner.
My daughter is then lying on the couch she's only 3 and a half. And she wants to sit down next to her my daughter tells her to go away she lying down. She grabs her feet and lifts them up my daughter gets up set and she has a go at her saying she needs to respect her elders she has no right to boss her around and calls her a little bitch. I stood in I was so mad no one calls my daughter a little bitch. She kept saying all this nasty stuff to her saying she was going to be a bully and you mum is going to let you be because she is sitting there with you while you cry and not telling you to respect your elders. I told her to get out.
Next minute she's leaving the house she then again comes home and she goes to bed and goes "thanks for saying good night to me". Shes in her room sobbing my mum still here, she goes in and she goes off she's mad saying the world hates her that she needs to die. She runs out of the house and gets in her car and is reving in then takes off and sends my mum a message saying a storm is coming.
Last night she went some where when we were all in bed then came home 10 minutes later. Was that to get some drugs?
She's been like this for probably 3 months now. Just up and down crying over the smallest things like not having a jar to put pasta in or laughing at the weirdest things. Then saying every one is out to get her.
I don't know what to do. Is she on drugs again, or is this just because they have messed with her pretty bad.
How do we get her help or does she have to come and ask for help.

Posted in:  Mental Health, Self Care

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Ring the police tell them how she talks about needing to die and ur worried about her mental health and that she is not in a stable mind can they remove her to hospital for u. I’d be worried about urs and ur daughters safety! She sounds psychotic!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Oh wow. She could be using or having a mental health crisis. Either way I’m not sure I’d want her living with me and my 3.5 year old! Any chance Mum might want her to go live with her for awhile.

People like this are often enabled cause they tantrum when they are called out on their shit! Who can or wants to live with that! I’m way to selfish to have my peace interfered with now that I have kids!

Good luck you have some hard decisions ahead. But remember it is ok to be selfish! You get decide the environment your child grows up in!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

As she has a history of drug abuse, I'd say it's a distinct possibility that she went to score. Regardless, she's very unwell either way!

I would not feel right about kicking sister out when she's in such a bad place mentally, so I personally would be moving out since this has been going on for months. This is not a safe or stable environment for a child to be living in, your daughter's wellbeing is first priority here!

As for getting her help, unless she's involuntarily admitted to psych (and she'd have to be in a fairly catatonic state for that to happen) you guys cannot force her. If she makes mention of harming herself again, call an ambulance but even then she can refuse to go to hospital.

Has anyone straight up asked her if she's using?

Has anyone told her "I'm really worried about you, you aren't ok, please let me take you to a doctor"?

A bit of an "intervention" might be a good place to start.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Either way, you need to get your daughter away from her. Your top priority is protecting your daughter.

Have you spoken to your mum and other sister about her behaviour? What do they think?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

She's either using ice , or has bi polar type symptoms from damage done to her brain. Both of these issues display very similar behaviors. The only way to know for sure which one it is , is to ask her to let you do a urine drug test on her . If she fails it by declining the test , or having a dirty test, thats when you'll know its meth . My partner acted just like this when he was using gear and he lied over and over for years that he wasnt using and he continued to deny it even when I believed he was high and then he was having nasty vile comedowns, that sound like your sisters meltdowns . I did hour by hour and months and months of every spare second of research of what could be wrong with him and it kept leading back to bi polar 2 disorder . I sent him to a psychologist who said in the first session that it's not BP2 at all . Thats when I was convinced he was lying about the drugs. It could only have been one or the other . I took a drug urine sample from hs pee in an unflushed toilet one night and it came back positive for meth. I left him for good the next day as he lied and lied for 3 yrs that he wasnt using , leading me to believe he was bipolar. That's why I suggest that's its either ice use or genuine bi polar. She needs to be told to leave if its ice. You can't have someone like that around your baby .

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Been there 100% agree...

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Screams bipolar to me. I'm bipolar type 1 you have pretty much described me unmediated.

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