My ex husband & I split up almost 12 months ago. We both had emotional affairs. I ended it.
He is begging to fix our family but I don't know if I can get past all the nastiness that has gone on since then.
He has said he moving out of the state if we are not to work things and that breaks my heart but I don't know if it's me or the fact the kids that will lose there dad that's breaking me the most.
How do you decide what your heart really wants?
A Heart breaking decision
A Heart breaking decision
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Is that emotional blackmail on his behalf?
So he is emotionally blackmailing you so you’ll take him back?
Sounds like a very unhealthy dynamic, not a good way to try again.
Yep that decides it for you. He has to go. Take the time to heal, and know that your kids will be ok. they have years to work out a relationship with him, that's the least of your worries.
Before he goes sort out mediation so everyone is clear on when the kids will see him, who is to organise transport, who will pay etc. Offer him a lift to the airport.
You can’t be with him so that he “doesn’t abandon the kids”. Keep the kids out of this decision and if too much has happened and trying again is not for you then stick to your guns. I feel this is manipulation for sure. Let him go if that’s his decision. The effects on his relationship with his kids are it in you.