Someone for the love of all that’s good in the world PLEASE HELP ME!
I have 4 children, first 3, walk in the park compared to my 4th. I’m sure I’ve put the rod in my own back but it’s getting beyond a joke. In the day, he napsfine, most the time. At night, he will not sleep unless I hold him. I’ve tested every theory that there could be something else wrong and there isn’t! I know babies wanna be close and I understand that but I really need some down time! I do it alone 90% of the time (partner works away) when he’s home, we have NO time together, and it’s taking a toll on our relationship. I will get the baby to sleep, he’ll stay asleep for maybe 20
Minutes, wake up, the second I pick him up, he’s fine, back to sleep, no crying, put him down again, 10
Minutes later, screaming. It goes like this all night until I give in and just out him in the bed.
I’ve just been diagnosed with PND and anxiety and this is just too much! How can I get him in his own bed? I don’t care if I have to wake up through to night for a short cuddle and bottle, but he doesn’t even want a bottle!
He’s 7 months old, please help. My others co slept till 6 months and I never had this problem with them.
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Some babies just do this. Get a carrier and wear him. And when you go to bed put him next to you.
You could then try a rocking/shaking babybouncer just until you go to bed. The more secure he feels, like you're not trying to dump him every time he sleeps, the better the chance he will then sleep well and deeply so you actually can put him down. So hold him close for a while.
This was my third ahhh I know the hell! We had to put her wrapped in one of my shirts with my smell on it, and have a YouTube video of a lawn mower playing for 12 hours... Fucking torture. She did grow out of it by 2 tho
It’s so hard I feel for you mums, does your baby have any sleep associations? (Dummy? Bottle to sleep? Sleeping bag or comforter?) these items are great for setting up a positive sleep routine I use a sleeping bag and at 7 months he is a bit little for a comforter (sids reccomends are 9mo but I used one from 6 months) do you initially rock your baby to sleep? If so try stopping that and instead cuddles until bubs is sleepy but awake and then place in the cot, it takes some persistence but bubs will get it eventually, if you choose to use a sleeping bag or comforter sleep with it yourself for a night or stuff it up your shirt for the day so it smells like you and only offer these items at sleep time.
Maybe the position he is in when you lay him down isn’t comfortable or it hurts somewhere. Maybe take him to an osteopath. You’ll be surprised how much babies little bodies are put out from birth. His neck or hips could be out. I took my middle child to an osteopath and it was amazing how well she slept after.