My hubby and I have been together for 9 years and have three kids (all born via c-section). We have a great sex life. We have sex 3-4 timers per week. He has been really keen on anal sex lately and I’m just not sure I’m comfortable with it. I’m concerned of the safety aspects of it, but also how my butt hole will change forever. Has anyone had any experience with Anal Sex and are comfortable sharing your experience? Does it hurt? Can you still poo? Etc? Thanks mums.
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I find it extremely pleasurable. Lots of lube and going slow really helps because yes it does hurt at first. After effects for me is usually diarrhoea the next day so don't plan on leaving the house lol
Make sure your bowel is empty first. Yes you can still poo just fine.
We've experimented with this lately... slow and steady... lots of lube. It's actually pretty amazing. We've been together 14 years and have only just 'tried' it. Problem is it is a little too exciting for hubby if you know what I mean.. ha ha ha. As other poster said can give you the runs. Google how to do it safely if you're worried about germs etc.
If you want to try it make sure you do a solid poo before hand, use lots of lube and it helps if your on top, that way you can ease your selfs down. It hurts for a few seconds but once you relax it can be extremely pleasurable. I love it. Take it slow to begin with.
Owe and your butt goes back to normal after, it doesn’t change anything. If we can recover from a giant pop we can recover from a penis 😂
I have to be EXTREMELY horny to want anal . My husband and i do it about once every six months on average. If I'm not savagely turned on i can't do it , its just too much physical pressure to bear. My husband isn't small so I need to be 100 percent in the mood. By the time I'm at that level , no lube is needed , I get so wet it's more than enough to get the moisture all over me for easier insertion, but once it's in and he's fucking me for all its worth , its beyond amazing , and i scream with pleasure the whole way through ! However he doesn't last long with anal because he says it's just too damn good for him and super tight . He finishes inside me and the next day or two im struck down with wet sloppy poo's , its pretty gross that part because semen acts as a natural laxative . But I need to be close to orgasm, before I am comfortable with anal . If im not turned on enough i just wont do it .
We too have spiced things up and done anal. I’ve had good and bad experiences in the past but with my husband it’s great and I love it. We go slow, lots of lube and I find if I’m extremely relaxed it’s so much more comfortable!
I am not a fan. My husband has talked me into trying it several times and every time I've found it extremely painful and we end up aborting every time. I have several friends who will do it every so often, but they both say they have to be fairly buzzed to be able to tolerate it. As for whether it affects the tone of your sphincter permanently, trying it once or every so often, probably not, but doing it consistently will decrease the tone and weaken your sphincter, will it really cause a problem maybe not now, but may when You're older or maybe not.
I'm only really into it when I double penetrate so hubby anal and vibrator in vagina and buzzing on my clit. But same as everyone else has said - lots of lube and take it slow
OMG I love it. Lots of lube, partner rubbing my clit as he's fucking me hard. I find I cum harder from anal sex than vaginal sex.
befor ebabies we tried it and it was good, pleasurable as long as we went slow. I mad ehim use a condom though as the thought of him being that close to my poop and then back in the vagina (even after a shower haha) just turns me off :-/ ..... Now though after 3 vaginal births and terrible tearing and heammoroids that come back at the slighted irritation :( I now just cant justify the pleasure for a sort amount of time vs the pain of the days following (ie we treid it again and It aggravated the heammoroids chronically) so its a no go zone now. poor hubby lol
I think if you have had no issues previously and you take it slow and lots of lube its definitely worth a try! OR ease into it.. get your self a but plug first and try playing with that first... its much smaller and gives you an idea if you will find it pleasurable or not :)
This is something men want more because they usually cant have it. It will effect your anus negatively, not always right away but definitely over time (hemorrhoids, prolapse etc) and it is a hole made for things to come out of so when you stimulate the muscles it is like hitting an exit button - you will poo after... alot and not pleasantly...
Do not feel pressured into doing it if you do not want to. It is still your body and your choice.
This is one of those things where you either fall into 1 of 2 categories.
1. Love it
2. Hate it
It can and probably will hurt if you've never done it before. You probably should expect some changes in your bowel habits for a few days.
Medically speaking:
Vaginas and rectal passages are designed differently - vaginas are designed to for sex, rectums are designed as an exit passage, the anatomy and primary functions are quite different so caution should absolutely be taken.
You can weaken the anal sphincter (when you consider the main function of one's bumhole, that ain't ideal).
Then you need to consider things like hemorrhoids or infections.
All i can say is don't do it unless you're keen to try it.
Don't do it just because you feel obligated to spice things up.
Because you will not enjoy yourself!
So you do think it causes hemarrhoids?
Any kind of strain/pressure on the blood vessels in that delicate area can cause hemorrhoids. It's not something "I think" it is a fact 🙄
I've done it a few times. Over about 15 years perhaps maybe 5-10. From memory I've only enjoyed it once haha. Most times we try it and stop straight away because I'm just not relaxed enough. The first time I did it with my husband, was purely for him. I wasn't into it so much, but I wanted to give him something he wanted to try. But hubby stops whenever I say stop if I'm uncomfortable.
If it's done safely and you ease into it, you should be fine.
I would just make sure you're relaxed and very ready for it. Don't rush into it and make sure you're prepared.
Yep but i need a few drinks under my belt first to make sure im super relaxed. Anal and dildo in vag is pretty awesome! My butthole is fine and ive jad it quite a lot with my husband and previous partner. All good down there. Give it a go but you need to be relaxed or it will hurt like hell.
Like previously stated take it slow at 1st and and use a silicone-based or oil-based type lube, it doesn't dry up as fast as water-base. Don't rush into it, foreplay is a must especially when its the 1st time. Invest in a couple beginner butt plugs, its actually quite nice doing regular sex with a butt plug in. Hubby may even like to use the butt plugs too. I haven't had any issues with my bowels after anal, sometimes a slight runs the next day but thats also most likely due to the semen. Its one of thoes things that you may or may not like but won't know till you try it. The only time I found it hurt a bit was when hubby didn't lube up enough and dove in a lil fast but after you've done anal a few times its not so bad. I especially like anal combined with my magic wand or double penetration.
If you are totally comfortable and trust your partner 100% then it’s unreal. You will need lots of foreplay and you “put it in” not them and they must NOT push. And lots of lube as mentioned.
Can be scary to poo next day (like post-natal) but not too painful, but sometimes I worry that I will fart during my sleep and make a mess lol.
I usually can’t “back it up” the next day. At the time it’s very pleasurable but next day can be tender esp if constipated.
Alot of the myths are totally not true and it can be fun. Like other poster DP is awesome as is a vibrator on your clit at same time. Go for it!