How would you feel if the following happened to you?
My partner and I have been together for two years and one small child together.We don’t currently live together but live in the same town as us for the last year.He lives on his own.I live with our child and my two other children.He doesn’t work currently but spent the day helping move and clean fish tanks.He has no license so I picked him up,dropped him off and done the same when he was finished.
He said he was tired and to call if I was going to stop by later on as he was going to try to have an early night.This man never has an early night as he stays up till 5-6 am regardless of what he does and likes to sleep all day.
I said ok.He has never said that before as he welcomes any visit with our child.
I went out to grab some takeaway dinner and while I was out my phone went flat.I stopped by to give him some food as I knew he probably wouldn’t feel like cooking.Ive done that before with no issue.
When I knocked on his door,he answered and looked rather started.He then looked frankly quite pissed off and said “I thought I said to call before you came around if you did”.He sounded rather angry and I said sorry but my phone died and I thought of you when I grabbed everyone else some dinner.He just went oh right.
I get that he has had a tiring day but he wasn’t in bed and was on his phone as I seen him straight away through his opened door before I knocked.It just seemed off the way he was and it’s unlike him to be like that to me.It was like it unsettled him by me turning up in announced.I do all the time and he has never had a problem.And yes to those questioning why I’m questioning this..he has been busted talking to women online before but nothing in person.Not sure what to think.
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Oh so soso many flags about all of this besides his rudeness today....
Wasn't this posted the other day just slightly worded differently?
Either way, there were red flags all over the place before you even got to today's event
This is my post and I haven’t posted about this or anything similar,worded differently or otherwise.
I think you know what he was up to. The real question is why you don’t believe you deserve better than this loser - doesn’t work, doesn’t drive, sleeps all day, doesn’t live with you and talks to other women (and is probably cheating on you). You are the role model for your children’s future relationships - please for your and their sake up your standards. Get rid of this guy and don’t go near another one until you won’t settle for less than you and they deserve
Wow, this guy sounds like a real catch 🙄
The peculiar behaviour in this instance really seems like the least of your worries to be entirely honest...
Not a weird mood he is up to no good !!! Sorry your going through this he has made no solid effort to really say I'm here with you other than love the bachelor life but together I would kick his lazy ass to the curb and let him have his online women they will soon do the same
Please aim a little higher for the sake of your children
Is there any future plans to live together and be a family or is it just a casual relationship?
Is there a reason why you don't live together, are you having a break? Maybe he wants some boundaries in place if that's the case or what's the point in having a break. You seem to be mothering him a bit.
I wouldn’t call him a partner. Sounds like a boyfriend to me (at best).
I don’t know why you’d be waisting time on this guy.
So many things wrong here!
You have a man using you for some sex and free food it seems and you’re willing to give more than you get
He's unemployed, stays up all night and sleeps all day (so not motivated to change his employment status) and is 'with' you but doesn't live with you and his own child? I know nothing about you and can confidently say you deserve so much better. Get out and give yourself a chance to meet someone worthy
Spot on! You took the words right out of my mouth.
I have so many questions. But firstly, how does he pay all his Bill's like rent and untilities if he lives alone and doesnt work ?
Welfare payments one would assume...
How can people afford to live on the dole?
As someone who's on Newstart (the dole), it's friggen nearly impossible, i would literally be homeless if i didn't receive family tax benefit as well.
He may be on a pension though, which is a significantly higher payment than the dole.
Probably a hell of a lot easier for this dude either way though with a baby mama who drives him everywhere, thoughtfully brings him food and likely supports him in countless other ways too.
I think he is a selfish pig and you obviously do more than you should for him. He isn’t a 2 year old but sounds like it. Clearly he is up to no good..!! He is a cheater.. can pick them a mile away. Turn up as much as you like, if he has nothing to hide. Why wouldn’t he be living with you anyway.
There are so many things wrong with this picture...
-he doesn’t work or drive... what does he do?
-stays up until 5-6am while you’re at him raising his child.... um grow up
- no thank you for dinner - looser
- angry at you for showing up and being nice- you know the answer to this.
You’re better than this. This guy is a dead beat and taking you for a ride. Let him be someone else’s issue and get go find who you are. Find your self worth and show those babies how it’s done. This guy is holding you back.
I think u already know what’s going on but don’t want to admit it or believe it. I’ve been there. As hard as it is it’s best to end it now. U and ur child deserve a lot better. Good luck