Hi Everyone,
I have a few questions for the co-parents out there. What do you class as 50/50 custody? How involved should the step parent be? When and how should you introduce your new partner and should they be introduce to the other parent first?
I want to have the best co-parenting relationship possible but sometimes it’s hard. It’s even harder when the other parent is unapproachable and always takes things the wrong way or seems to want to fight.
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50/50 is exactly that, time spent equally with both parents. Step parents in this situation should be just as involved as the two biological parents. I mean they are parenting your child for half of the time. If your children have a step mum then she is probably the one doing all the school runs, shopping, cooking, birthday and Christmas prep, cleaning up, making lunches ect while dad works. New partners should be introduced when and how you see fit. it’s not necessary to introduce a new partner to your ex before you children. Once you are separated you no longer have any say over who your ex spends time with when he/she is alone or when they have care of their children.
Is this serious?! Why would we assume the step mum does all this? I would never expect a step parent to do all this? When my kids are at their dads it’s to be looked after by him!
50/50 is exactly halved. Eg: 1 week on, one week off.
It depends on a lot of things with how involved a step parent should be. And untimely I think it comes down to the child, and dependable on how the child coles with the step parent. I often think children are introduced to new partners too soon, I'd be inclined to wait several months before introducing mine. But my ex doesn't need to meet my new partner, as I don't really expect to meet his. I guess the best thing could always be to ask if ex would like to meet him first, and keep communication open.
50 50 is shared time and parenting equally.
Your partner is not a step parent automatically. They shouldn't be involved for a long long time, and then it would be as your friend but you still parent your child.
The coparenting relationship is always between only you and the other parent. Always.
50/50 means the child spends equal time at each house.
Step parent involvement depends on how long they’ve been in the child’s life and the age of the child when they came into there life. It’s a gradual process and the older the child the longer it takes.