Hi everyone. Found out my wife of 23yrs has been on single parents pension for most of that what will happen
Hi everyone. Found out my wife of 23yrs has been on single parents pension for most of that what will happen
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If Centrelink finds out and she is found guilty in court she will most probably go to prison
I rung them regarding letter and after saying we only just separated they asked a million questions. I feel like a dog but I wasn't going to lie for her
Don’t feel like a dog, she lied not you. That’s her problem.
You are not a dog. She lied, she didn’t even give you a choice in the situation cause she didn’t give you the heads up.
Phone calls to government departments are recorded so they can be used to prove your innocence in this situation.
You should absolutely seek legal advice so you know how to protect yourself.
Your kids need one parent who isn’t in trouble!
Best bet is to speak to legal aide ASAP. Even if you don’t qualify for legal aid they’ll be able to give you some general advice and get you started.
If I had no knowledge of it and was still giving her 1k a week do I need legal advice?
Always get legal advice. It’s not going to hurt you to get legal advice. It could hurt you not to get legal advice. You need to protect yourself.
I only found out after we seperate Friday just been. Monday I had a letter from child support given me notice that she has asked for payments to be taken from my wages and not paid directly to her. Rung child support and they said basically I have been apperently paying child support privately to her for 3yrs.I explained we only seperate 1 working day before the letter arrived at work. They where very interested in finding out more.
What have you been putting on your tax returns all these years?
Something doesn’t sound right here. Claiming PPS for 10-12 years but continuing to add more children for same dad and Centrelink have asked no questions? You didn’t wonder where the extra cash was coming from?
I smell BS. I’d put money on you’ve had a rocky relationship and have broken up and separated on a few occasions which lead to her claiming PPS. Becareful you haven’t now been vindictive and not entirely truthful yourself- could come back to bite your on the arse if it would be a reasonable assumption under law that you knew.
No have had a rocky relationship. Had the normal arguments as per every other household. From what my sister in law has said it wasn't consecutive 10 to 12 yrs. It was a few years on then off and so on. Extra cash? I didn't see any but when something new and expensive turned up at the house she would always say either lay by or on special. Many years ago I had a virgin credit card with a 2000 limit for emergencies. Came home one afternoon to find here crying and upset. She told me over a period of time she was able to online up my credit card limit as we had been sent out things in the mail. I ended up being in debt for 17000. She had hidden bags and bags of all new clothes and gadgets around the house under beds and cupboards. Purchases that she would bring 1 or 2 items out at a time. I paid out the card and since then always had seperate accounts. We didn't seperate over that so for us to have been as u say seperate over the years is very very unlikely. The only time we spent apart due to a disagreement was once about 7yrs ago when after my daughter was born and I asked her mum to come pick her up. It was for one night and the reason was stupid. As far a being vendictive goes, well its not. Vindictive is when police remove you from ur own house by phone based upon stories they received. Vendictive is when the Monday straight after that u received a letter from child support saying u cannot pay chd support privately they are deducting from my wages. Apperently I have been paying private child support prior. So she had to get me out that weekend because she had already organize this about 2weeks before. Up till that Friday there was no sign of any trouble at all. My wife as I said (and no I'm no doctor but have 2 friends that work as social workers in this field) shows signs of bi polar. She would be extremely manic then on the down fall would use alcohol to level it out. A bottle of johnnie walker on a Friday or Sat night and 6 to 10 glasses per night. Bet ur thinking why didn't I say or do something hey. I did and tried so hard to get her to ask for help. I couldn't get help for her I couldn't look her in the eyes afterwards with her knowing I thought she was sick. I love my wife of course and regardless still do more then any one realises. But to find out she has lived with me and made plans and had children together been married but has lived another life altogether hurts like all shit. I would not be vendictive enough to bs to get her in trouble because of my children. I want her to get the help she needs. After my solicitor contacted her and arranged for me to visit my daughter which coincidentally was yesterday afternoon I saw her at the door. She has gone from 102kg to around 45kg and no exaggeration in about 3mths. She was going to gym before this happened. Her eyes are sunken in her bones are showing on her arms. Her chest is bone from what I could see from her kneck line. So yes it's not vendictive it's worry. I want her to get help, I want her to get better. I know if I call the right people she will be assessed and more then likely placed under care but she is my wife we have our children I don't want that to happen. And when u say about them not questioning about the children I don't even know if I am on the birth certificate.
My tax is done by my wife every time. She takes care of all that
So your tax is going to say single and paid child support? For 10 years you're ultimately responsible for it regardless of who you let do it.
Poster above, I also smell a rat with this whole thing, I really hope it's not vindictive because this is your kids future.
For the record you don't have to lie for her but you never have to speak. Silence is golden, until you know exactly what you're saying and the ramifications, some things can't be undone.
I understand my children are involved yes. As I said I still do love my wife very much. As far as smelling a rat goes that's far from it. My wife took care of all financial matters. Everything from groceries to bill paying. I was doing my own tax with an account and she incisted she did it as she said it would save money and she could claim more. You mention about not saying anything yes but they where on the other side of the phone asking question at a million to a minute and I had just been told that I was already seperate. What would u do
Once i realised something fishy was up I would say I have to run right now, I'll get back to you. Never give out your private information when you don't know why you're giving it.
Due to privacy they wouldn't have been able to tell you what centrelink payments she's claimed, only asked you questions and discussed your child support.
You definitely need a lawyer, you sound like you have no clue about anything, and I'm not sure how much that can clear you.
Ignorance isn't an excuse for breaking the law. You may want to find out what else you've signed, along with tax returns and seek advice on where you stand before speaking with centrelink/child support again.
Definitely open a mygov account, link ATO and open and read all of your tax returns.
Link centrelink and open your profile and look at the history, payments, claims, etc. Also link child support and do the same.
These are really serious charges you're taking about, people go to jail for defrauding that much.
Hey. Yep contacted a solicitor today. When I rung child support to clarify things they never did tell me anything about what payments or even mention any thing bad was going on. They just hammered me with questions. The way I actually found out about single parents pension was from her ex sister in law. She rung later that day saying she has been wanting to say something for years but because we where together couldn't do it. She herself may very well be in trouble as she had to be a reference to say we had seperate on a few occasions over the years. My wife had told her that we where in financial trouble and that it was the only way. As far as signing anything else I have recently since been gone from the house received an email from my bank stating I have been approved for a $10k personal loan all I had to do was sign on the dotted line apparently. Rung the bank and ask how is this possible. They said it was done online application. I enformed them I wanted it shut down and changed all my passwords. And yes I really do have no idea about centerlink or child support and filling in my tax. My wife did all that and handled all bills. I even rung phone carrier today and disconnected the 3rd divice I apparently had. The only thing I have in my favour is the truth. My solicitor visit was only brief today but a full appointment has been made for Friday. Everything I purchased or had delivered to the house has my name and address on all receipts so I look at it this way, if I knew why would I do that? I do still now love my wife and feel sick thinking about what could happen but 23 yrs of deception and lies against myself and my children has made me realise I may really love her with all my heart but Im not in love with her atm. If that makes sence
Good to hear you've consulted a Solicitor. It does make sense how you feel about your wife. Hope all works out for you!
They asked about certain years if we where together and spacific dates. All lines up with when each child was born. It is between the 10 to 12yrs worth.
I remember you writing in ages ago about this , or something extremely similar last year , have centrelink taken all this time to review this and it's still at the unsolved stage ? Gosh they are taking ages to act
Hi. Last year? I have only just found out?
You would be surprised how often this actually happened. My partners ex wife was calming a single parent Pension for years while my partner was working a really high paying job. He didn’t find out until they split and he rang child support. They were confused at why he would want to start paying child support when he had already been paying it for years
Yep she hid it very well. Took me off Facebook and found out she put single. Said she tool me off because I was making silly comments. Bank account has always been in my name and she had her own card. Found out I wasn't on lease for the last few years. However maintained normal married life and sex life. She is very good at covering up things but too many neighbours and friends can vouch to say we where a normal family. My concern is now would centerlink be able to catch her?
Wow really feel for you. Only advice I've got is to consult a Solicitor- just so you know where you stand. How terrible dealing with a separation and then child support and centrelink on top of that. Wishing you all the best!
Thanks for the reply. Toughest thing is not seeing my daughter. We spent every weekend together if I wasn't working. Having our lunch dates and then going for drives. During the week she would wait till I got home and we spent every minute together till her bed time. So yes without her is making me have all sorts of shit thoughts
OK just a quick update. Have been able to see my daughter since and feel a bit better about that. However my wife has told her that I will be home soon and everything will be OK. I sat my daughter down and explain that I won't be coming home the best way I could. I told her that regardless I will never stop loving her. I have never heard her cry form deep down like that before. I sent my wife a message asking her not to tell our daughter I am coming home and to explain what is going on to her properly. She even told our neighbours I was working late and leaving early that's why they haven't seen me. She said my work load should reduce in a couple of weeks.
I have since been contacted from child support and they have confirmed that It started from the 30/12/1996. Straight after my son was born. So from 96 to 01 from 03 to 05 from 08 to 12 from 14 to 16 and from 2017 to current. They have comformation of seperation and reconciliation. She told me there had been numerous letters sent to me and they spoke with a male identify as me. She told me the mobile number that they had for contact and off course I have never heard of it. The letters would have been binned in assuming and I even asked them why didn't they pick up on the fact the letters for me went to the famy address? The girl I spoke with is actually filing a fraud report herself and said she has never come across something as long and planned as this. Yes sounds like I have turned from saying I feel like a dog and didn't want anything bad to happen her to making all this go thru. Well every day I am realising I have been treated like a completed dick and cintinuesly lied to and basically have now been told I can cooperate and give details or have to go through all this with her and prove I had no idea. She has covered her tracks pretty good the only thing that matters now are my children. She is making out now even I am basically stalking her lol. I was at my neighbours house Thursday night to drop off money so she could sneak it to my 2 boys there. We watched my wife in front of the security camera pull up race out of car and put on a show for the camera to make it look like someone was just off reach and out of view lol. My neighbours camera picked up the whole thing.