I can’t work at the moment due to medical issues. $250 a week is barley anything, OUR teenagers eat more than that a week let alone everything else that they need. I didn’t make these kids by myself. Just because he decided to leave and have more kids with somebody else shouldnt mean that our kids miss out.
Wow that’s a lot of CS, much more than most women receive.
It drops a bit, not substantially but some. If you are going to struggle after losing such a large amount of CS I think you need to reassess your situation and finances as at any moment his payments could stop if he loses work, stops declaring etc.
That’s a lot of child support based on a percentage of his income, are you sure he doesn’t earn more than that? It’s more than 25% of his take home pay. It doesn’t seem right tbh. I guess if you have 100 percent care and earning nothing it might be right?
Having twins as opposed to one will make you lose quite a bit I would say.
Are you eligible for a disability payment, could you look into that if you are unable to work?
So far it is a private agreement, that’s what he has always paid, but now that he is having more kids the doesn’t think he should pay as much. I have the children full time as he moved states with a girl half his age and decided to start another family. I can’t work at the moment due to depression and anxiety, caused by him just walking out on our family.
I’ve been there, the depression and anxiety, still suffer with it, I even ended up in mental health.
But the reality was, I had to work, had no choice and it actually helped with the depression, took the focus away from what was going on in my life.
I would say if you go through child support, you will get a lot less and he can do it.
Sorry to say but you sound really bitter about the whole situation. Be grateful that he is paying for the kids plenty of people don’t. $250 a week is massive and as you put it they are both of yours children so why should he have to solely pay for them he also didn’t make these kids on his own so that mean you also have to support them financially too. $650 a week isn’t that much for him to live off either by the time he will pay all of the things that a required of him such as rent and food as well as the new babies. Sorry to say but time to get yourself some help and a job it’s big girl panties time
The amount of wage he puts to children will be shared with 4 children instead of 2. That's his responsibility. But how they work that out is variable on lots of factors. Phone child support
The human services website has a child support estimator on it. Really simple to use. Give it a go. Only you know how much income both of you make and how much care of the children each parent has. This is a huge factor when it comes to calculating payments. Give the online estimator ago.
When I worked this out in the past based on my situation it was about a $20 loss per extra child in the fathers care. That was a fortnight.
If his CS goes down then your FTB payments (if you receive them) may go up. But if it’s a private agreement and he pays more than the set CS amount I guess there isn’t much you can do about it.
Some extra info would be good. Like what is he meant to pay by CS assessment (even private agreements are usually assessed by the CSA if you get FTB payments)
Not by much, my ex now pays child support to two of his baby mamas and I still get around $1100 a month for 2 kids. I can't remember what it was before he had another child but not too much more.
You need to get Child Support to do a proper assessment on him and get them to collect for you so you don’t have this drama. I’m sorry he left you but it’s obviously been a fair time due to them being pregnant already and him moving states.
You need to seek counselling and work through your issues and become independent and not rely on his child support. A lot of women go through what you are going through and make it work. $1000 a month it is nothing to sneeze at. I get $400 a month for 3 children it’s more than most get. You may need to move and make some big changes to do what’s best for you and your family to get ahead.
Yes he left you, yes he met someone else and left the state. No he doesn’t get to decide how much he pays you, that’s child supports job to asses it. No you don’t get to decide it’s not enough. I have family who receive twice as much as me for less children, I have family that receive less than me for more children. Yes him having more babies could change the amount you get but that is what child support assesses. Her previous children do not come into account into how much you get paid but having new dependents also really doesn’t change what you get. $650 after tax and child support is still a lot to take home each week. For those who think it’s not try living on $400 a week after tax and paying $230 in rent and having every thing else on payment plans and still affording insurance car and home and fuel for your vehicles with 4 people in the house. (I didn’t know about fam tax a and b back then or partnered parenting payments either. Totally doable if you budget really hard and go without any extras. That was my life for years.
Also you should be receiving 20-30% of his income prior to tax. So if he earns $1200 and he pays you 30% then you’d get $360 if he pays 25% $300 and 20% is $260. So what ever he’s paying you should be based on pre- taxed income not post tax income.
Personally I’d try and negotiate a reduction privately. The chances of you receiving that amount of child support if he decides to go through the agency is pretty low.
Yes, it’s hard when there is a break-up. It can be hard to get back on your feet again.
1. Never ever rely on child support payments
2. Go and get some assistance to deal with your anxiety and depression
3. Get an official plan in place paying through CSA. Money is going to get tight with new babies on the scene. I’m sorry to say this but your kids are out of sight out of mind unfortunately and CSA payments could become last priority. If he is paying through CSA they can and will chase payments.
4. Get work. For financial reasons and for your own independence.
5. Don’t waste your life being angry, upset, sad because he left. He’s done you a favour, allowing you to see who he really is and giving you the opportunity to stand strong, develop fierce independence and maybe one day to find a partner who truely treasures you.
My best wishes for a wonderful future ahead.
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Yes because they will have another dependent. Shouldn’t drop too much, depending on what you get of course.
He makes 1200 before tax, I get $250 for our two children and they are expecting twins
It works out he takes home $900, pays me $250. so he keeps roughly $650 of his income. I really can’t afford for his child support to drop.
Gee, he doesn’t have much take home pay. How about YOU get a job?
I can’t work at the moment due to medical issues. $250 a week is barley anything, OUR teenagers eat more than that a week let alone everything else that they need. I didn’t make these kids by myself. Just because he decided to leave and have more kids with somebody else shouldnt mean that our kids miss out.
So $500 a fortnight is ‘barely anything’? $1000 a month ? You’re kidding , right ?
Wow that’s a lot of CS, much more than most women receive.
It drops a bit, not substantially but some. If you are going to struggle after losing such a large amount of CS I think you need to reassess your situation and finances as at any moment his payments could stop if he loses work, stops declaring etc.
I love that because it’s more than most women it’s considered a lot. And she is judged harshly.
That wouldn’t even be there share of Sydney rent, let alone food, clothing etc.
This is were people shouldn’t have more children if they can’t support the children they currently have to the same standard they are used to!
That’s a lot of child support based on a percentage of his income, are you sure he doesn’t earn more than that? It’s more than 25% of his take home pay. It doesn’t seem right tbh. I guess if you have 100 percent care and earning nothing it might be right?
Having twins as opposed to one will make you lose quite a bit I would say.
Are you eligible for a disability payment, could you look into that if you are unable to work?
So far it is a private agreement, that’s what he has always paid, but now that he is having more kids the doesn’t think he should pay as much. I have the children full time as he moved states with a girl half his age and decided to start another family. I can’t work at the moment due to depression and anxiety, caused by him just walking out on our family.
I’ve been there, the depression and anxiety, still suffer with it, I even ended up in mental health.
But the reality was, I had to work, had no choice and it actually helped with the depression, took the focus away from what was going on in my life.
I would say if you go through child support, you will get a lot less and he can do it.
I have moderate anxiety and clinical depression. I still get up at 530 out my fake face on and get my ass to work...
My ex doesn’t pay much child support so I made it my mission to ensure my kids are looked after physically, financially and mentally.
To be honest you sound bitter that your ex has moved on. Be happy for him, or at least pretend.
Depression and anxiety are not good enough reasons not to work.
Sorry to say but you sound really bitter about the whole situation. Be grateful that he is paying for the kids plenty of people don’t. $250 a week is massive and as you put it they are both of yours children so why should he have to solely pay for them he also didn’t make these kids on his own so that mean you also have to support them financially too. $650 a week isn’t that much for him to live off either by the time he will pay all of the things that a required of him such as rent and food as well as the new babies. Sorry to say but time to get yourself some help and a job it’s big girl panties time
Yes it does
Your ex now has another dependent therefore his money had to stretch further
And his new partners income doesn’t factor in either,
Yes, but it’s pretty minimal.
The amount of wage he puts to children will be shared with 4 children instead of 2. That's his responsibility. But how they work that out is variable on lots of factors. Phone child support
The human services website has a child support estimator on it. Really simple to use. Give it a go. Only you know how much income both of you make and how much care of the children each parent has. This is a huge factor when it comes to calculating payments. Give the online estimator ago.
I have tried that but it doesn’t give any information about the more children he has outside of our children
It does, the first question asks about your dependants and his dependants!
When I worked this out in the past based on my situation it was about a $20 loss per extra child in the fathers care. That was a fortnight.
If his CS goes down then your FTB payments (if you receive them) may go up. But if it’s a private agreement and he pays more than the set CS amount I guess there isn’t much you can do about it.
Some extra info would be good. Like what is he meant to pay by CS assessment (even private agreements are usually assessed by the CSA if you get FTB payments)
Not by much, my ex now pays child support to two of his baby mamas and I still get around $1100 a month for 2 kids. I can't remember what it was before he had another child but not too much more.
Wow. I wish MY ex would work at something other than cash in hand, I could do with that kind of help in child support
Don't worry he tried that too then got done by the tax department. They watch his every move now.
You need to get Child Support to do a proper assessment on him and get them to collect for you so you don’t have this drama. I’m sorry he left you but it’s obviously been a fair time due to them being pregnant already and him moving states.
You need to seek counselling and work through your issues and become independent and not rely on his child support. A lot of women go through what you are going through and make it work. $1000 a month it is nothing to sneeze at. I get $400 a month for 3 children it’s more than most get. You may need to move and make some big changes to do what’s best for you and your family to get ahead.
Yes he left you, yes he met someone else and left the state. No he doesn’t get to decide how much he pays you, that’s child supports job to asses it. No you don’t get to decide it’s not enough. I have family who receive twice as much as me for less children, I have family that receive less than me for more children. Yes him having more babies could change the amount you get but that is what child support assesses. Her previous children do not come into account into how much you get paid but having new dependents also really doesn’t change what you get. $650 after tax and child support is still a lot to take home each week. For those who think it’s not try living on $400 a week after tax and paying $230 in rent and having every thing else on payment plans and still affording insurance car and home and fuel for your vehicles with 4 people in the house. (I didn’t know about fam tax a and b back then or partnered parenting payments either. Totally doable if you budget really hard and go without any extras. That was my life for years.
Also you should be receiving 20-30% of his income prior to tax. So if he earns $1200 and he pays you 30% then you’d get $360 if he pays 25% $300 and 20% is $260. So what ever he’s paying you should be based on pre- taxed income not post tax income.
Personally I’d try and negotiate a reduction privately. The chances of you receiving that amount of child support if he decides to go through the agency is pretty low.
Yes, it’s hard when there is a break-up. It can be hard to get back on your feet again.
1. Never ever rely on child support payments
2. Go and get some assistance to deal with your anxiety and depression
3. Get an official plan in place paying through CSA. Money is going to get tight with new babies on the scene. I’m sorry to say this but your kids are out of sight out of mind unfortunately and CSA payments could become last priority. If he is paying through CSA they can and will chase payments.
4. Get work. For financial reasons and for your own independence.
5. Don’t waste your life being angry, upset, sad because he left. He’s done you a favour, allowing you to see who he really is and giving you the opportunity to stand strong, develop fierce independence and maybe one day to find a partner who truely treasures you.
My best wishes for a wonderful future ahead.