Does anyone feel they're failing at life? Decided I wanted to separate from my husband a few months ago, but it's like nothing's changed except we're no longer sleeping in the same bed. I feel like we're avoiding the whole situation as we haven't discussed where to from here. The anger I felt towards him initially has diminished and now it's like it's back to the status quo. My 10 year old now sleeps with me as he wasn't able to get to sleep in his bed and try as I might I can't get him back there. I have some good, supportive friends, however don't want to burden them with my crap so haven't been touching base with them. I've been seeing a Psychologist for almost a year who I really like and has been helpful, but feel like I should be able to do this without her. I am estranged from my own family and I guess just feel like I'm useless and floundering. How have others who've felt this way got out of the rut?
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Failing at life? Or just struggling with a few aspects?
Are you dressed, fed and have a roof? ✔️
Are you basic human needs met? ✔️
Do you need to work? If so are you employed? ✔️
Is your son fed clothed and have shelter? happy? Does he feel loved? ✔️
Celebrate your wins! Embrace yourself and pat yourself on the back!
Write out a list of achievable goals then divide and conquer! Go about what you need to do to realise them!
Your son will out grow sleeping in your bed. For now he needs the extra comfort. Don’t put this as failing put this in the - I’m killing motherhood cause my son needs support and I’m right there with him.
Also realise we all feel this burden of doubt from time to time! Even the people who seem to have it together. I read a really good meme “enjoy what you have now because there is someone out there wishing they could have that”.
Try to stay positive and look for the positives within yourself! Good luck on your path mumma x
Like anyone going through a separation (I’ve been there), you sell the house or if you are renting, you move out.
It’s pretty simple really.
If this isn’t want he wants, he won’t take those steps, but you need to.
I’m not sure what you are waiting for?
You have control over your life, you aren’t a passenger.
I think everyone goes through stages of feeling like they are failing at life. You are not alone. It's pretty normal, divorce or separation is such a hard thing to go thru. Therapy is good for the soul. Try to make small steps everyday, even if it's just writing a list of your goals, what you want. You should check out the women's center in your town as well for support etc. xxxx Time to move forward baby steps will get you there