I hate my teeth!!I am a mum of five and don’t seem to have time or money for myself much these days.I also suffer from post natal depression,hypothyroid disease and a few other things.
I’m more worried about the teeth of my children than my own but also know I need to worry about mine too.I cover my mouth when I smile,never open mouth smile,hate my picture taken etc.I know my teeth need work..chipped and crooked teeth(parents couldn’t afford braces as a child) some cavities.I can only chew on one side.They could be worse but also a lot better.I just can’t afford the work that needs doing and in the last 12 months have gone downhill a lot despite brushing and flossing.
My husband actually said to me today(he knows I hate my teeth etc) in a real condescending and disgusted tone..”you need to brush your teeth “.
The thing is I had already done so nor eaten anything to be stuck in my teeth.Ive also noticed he would turn his head when he would kiss me goodbye etc.We don’t really kiss much at all and it’s no doubt because of my mouth.I know my breath doesn’t smell despite my issues he is obviously turned off by my mouth all odya sudden.He was never like this before.
And yes I probably would be put off from it too but he is just beginning to be rude and hurtful about it.He doesn’t have perfect teeth but way better than mine.
What makes things worse is his dad is a dentist and I know he is embarrassed..hell no one could be more embarrassed than me and my life long dream was to have a smile I didn’t have to hide and could be proud of but I can’t afford the treatment to fix everything.
Bad teeth and partner puts me down because of them
Bad teeth and partner puts me down because of them
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When you say you can't afford it? What exactly can't you afford? Do you need braces, fillings, a clean, teeth pulled?
Can you start chipping away at some.of the problems so it doesn't seem like one major problem.
I currently have braces at 26. It was something of desperately wanted. I got a few quotes and spent a long time stewing over if I can justify that money on myself. I went with the cheapest place i found but I have no regrets so far (8 months in) and I justified it because I never spend money on myself so the one time I do, it's going to be worth it. I'll have mine for up to 3 years, $5100 all up. Plus an extra couple of hundred if I have an impacted tooth removed.
If none of the work is possible, are you at least able to buy home whitening kits or something of the like to help the appearance. I mean that won't fix all the issues but it might help some
You need to prioritise getting some dental work done. It is obviously something that has bothered you for a while so it's time to do something. If you live near a university with a dental school you can often get work done there very cost effectively or through the public health system. Remember all the work wont be able to be done at once so the total cost is likely to be spaced out. Either way you need to get the ball rolling now because further deterioration will only increase the cost as well as putting your health at risk (infection, inability to eat a healthy diet etc). Partner sounds like he's being a a bit of a rude prick but you said yourself it would be a turn off for you, is this something you complain about but haven't made effort to rectify?? Surely if his dad is a dentist he could recommend some cost effective options/dental clinics for you?? Dental health for me is a must so maybe you (and your partner) have to go without some other things so you can afford this?
Okay so my ex had really bad teeth, broken chipped ect. He would brush his teeth twice a day and would swear black and blue that his breath didn’t smell, but I tell you what I did. It was that bad I couldn’t stand talking to him because him being in my personal space just stunk. Kissing him, sleeping next to him, being intimate with him was a massive turn off for me and I use to dread it when he wanted those things. He may be being blunt because he is a) an arse hat, or b) because he has been dropping subtle hints for a long time that you just not picking up. You do really need to sort something out about your teeth because not only do bad teeth smell and look bad but it’s so bad for your over all Heath. The heath care system is free and most dentists offer afterpay, zippay or payment plans. It’s definitely not unaffordable
Not all bad teeth smell. My husband has shocking teeth , but they don’t smell . And if your ex had bad teeth to the point he turned you off that much , why did you find him attractive in the first place ? It sounds like a deal breaker with how bad his teeth were in your situation, but unless they became that way after you got with him , I couldn’t imagine why you would even have had a grotty gob like that as a boyfriend to start with since you sound so repulsed about it now . And rightly so !
You are right, not all teeth smell but a lot do and here obviously hers do as her partner is telling her she needs to brush her teeth. No my ex didn’t have fantastic teeth when we got together, a couple were chipped and he had a few holes. But after 10 years of complaining about how much he hated them but never doing a thing to fix them they got worse over time. No his teeth weren’t a deal breaker, him throwing my child into a wall and smashing my head against a door frame was a deal break. So please don’t make me seem shallow.
The part about what he did to you and your child wasn’t mentioned before , but what a cunt for doing that , it sounded like it was all about his teeth , so I wasn’t trying to make you feel shallow, was only going off what you wrote . Maybe someone should have thrown him against a wall to knock the rest of his rotting teeth out , I bet he looked a sight when he smiled . Yuck . Especially letting it go for ten years , I’d be repulsed too.
Go to the dentist. Prioritise it. Let them know you have $200 or whatever you have and need a scale and clean and to make a plan for work. Then just book it in and work through it.
Do it for your self, there's never going to be a better time yo do it.
If you're low income look up the medicare dentist and go on the wait list, it can be a very short wait and it's free.
He probably doesn't mean to be rude and hurtful about it.
I also don't mean to be rude but if you have decaying teeth, there will be some smell issues. Generally, we don't always notice pur own breath. My partner has had to tell me a few times If my breath's bad (I have tonsil issues), despite brushing and mouthwash, i couldn't smell it.
It's time to do something about your teeth, i know it's incredibly expensive but eventually (if it hasn't already) it will start to impact your overall heath.
Many dentists now do afterpay.
You could ask your father in law (if you're on good terms) to take a look and give you a gauge of pricing and priority - eg, any extractions would likely need doing first, then fillings or root canals and so on. He may even be willing to do some of the work himself for a good price?!
If you're on centrelink payments you could consider a Nils loan or going through the public oral health services.
You could look at just getting extras private health cover if you haven't already.
Even if you just save $20 a week til you have enough for a clean, then save up for the next treatment.
Time to start prioritising yourself, you deserve it!!
I am the same(not being put down) but I needed 2-3grands worth of work which I can’t afford. I started a zip money account and am now paying off work. It’s not ideal but I earn too much for GOV help and not enough to pay for 200-300 sessions in one hit.
This makes me soooo sad ❤ he shouldn't make you feel that way.
My teeth were the same (in the middle of fixing now)
Find a dentist that offers DENTICARE Payment plans, they are no interest and easy to manage.
Tell the dentist you can only afford the basics.
A lot of dentist do payment plans. You could call around and see will do the work and let them pay it off.
Why don't you talk to your partners dad. Tell him you're embarrassed by your teeth but can't afford to fix them. Is there a way he could fix them and you pay him back.
Have you actually talked to your partner about it? He may not be aware how much it effects you. You may be able to come to a solution together.
Good luck mumma, hope you work something out. 💕