Just don't know what to do ... My parents own two businesses and work very long hours. This Friday is my mums bday so I rang her this morning to ask if she had anything planned and if not can she tell us a time she's free so we can come and visit for her bday. I was told NO we can't come and she doesn't have time. Iam so frustrated with my parents unless it's me kicking up a big fuss they never make time for my kids, which in turn I can see them missing out on so much and my kids missing out on a relationship with their grandparents. We see my Inlaws at least once a fortnight and my kids have a great relationship with their aunties, uncle and nana. It makes me so sad knowing they don't have the same relationship with my family. I've tried so many times to sit down and talk to them about it but it always ends up in a fight Iam contemplating writing them an email or letter to explain how it makes us feel. But Iam not looking forward to the aftermath of the letter as I know they will blow up about it. What should I do ?? Should I keep pushing us to visit, write the letter or just give up and wait for them to contact us which quite possibly could be months later. The most annoying thing about it all is if we didn't push to organise a visit in a few months time my mum will be bitching that we never made an effort for her bday.
All I want is a resolution to this issue but all I feel like i do all the time is go around and around in circles and never get any where, what should I do
Children's relationship with family
Children's relationship with family
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I would back right off. Don't put so much emotional effort into it. You've tried to build a relationship with them but it sounds like earning money is way more important to them than building close relationships. This sounds harsh but not everyone looks forward to the day they have grand kids (I know some can't wait but others...). Set yourself some limits on how often you are going to contact them and try and organise something. Concentrate on the family you are close too. It's not likely your parents will change
You can't force your parents and your side of the family to love your kids. If it doesn't come naturally don't push it. Let it go and be involved with your husbands side of the family that do make to effort to get to know your kids. If I were you I would just invite your parents to see your kids at your house, if they don't show up or refuse once, twice and three times, stop trying. You can't force them to be involved with your kids.