Hi all, I am having trouble deciding whether I am ready to have another baby. My son will be 2 in August, and I would love to have my children close in age. My partner is happy for me to take my Marina out and start trying (he works away so could take a while, however very fertile so could also be straight away.)
Some days I am all for it and really want another one, and then other days I have such beautiful days with my son and I can't imagine wanting to give any of my attention to anyone else and miss out on him growing up. I know I don't want to stop at one child, but how will I know I am ready?!
Thanks all x
how to know your ready for another baby (no 2)
how to know your ready for another baby (no 2)
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You can't describe the feeling of seeing siblings laughing and playing together it melts your heart it opens up a whole new level we as mothers have lots of love to share around to however many children we choose to have :)
You don't miss out on him growing up, you get to enjoy them growing up in different ways. You get to watch them bond with a sibling, learn to share and be thoughtful and empathetic towards another person. You don't abandon your first born because you have a 2nd one. You involve them in the care of the newborn. You learn to breast feed while your oldest sits next to you and cuddles, or you read a book together. If you do decide your ready start prepping your oldest now, so start working on independent skills like doing small tasks for himself like taking his dirty plate to the kitchen or fetching his own shoes for you to put on when you tell him. Things like getting off bottles and using big boy cups etc and if he is in a cot moving him to a toddler bed so it's not such a jolt and too many changes aren't happening at once. I personally think the 1st one being 3 is an awesome gap because usually that means not having 2 kids in nappies and the 1st one doesn't need mummy quite so much and is a little more independent but everyone is different.
I just want to say it's also ok to know when you have enough on your plate. There is nothing wrong with saying I'm ok with what we have for now. And for those who say you never regret children you have, go visit the foster care system which I'm sure has a bunch of children whose parents regretted and couldn't cope. Take your time, it's not a race.