So I have done the unthinkable which I never thought I would is end it with my partner after 3 years and I apologize for the long post
I am now thinking could I of kept going with this life instead of ending it
I deeply love my partner but i just cant take the way i feel on most days. Cos i feel like a single mum when it comes our children all decisions are left up to me and it's a big deal for me cos if i dont make the right choices its on my shoulders and can ruin there future.
My partner works away a lot and we only see him for a day and a half on weekends and he calls every day talking bout work.
When he is home we can only do wat he wants to do and it's where there isnt any people around cos he hates people.
He is always on his phone on face book and comments about it constantly even wen we r out and shows me things from Facebook when I'm trying to drive then yells at me for not concentrating on my driving cos he just had to show me something on Facebook
He sleeps in every morning he is home and never gets up with our children it's always me.
He demands a coffee wen he wakes up round 9 10 o'clock wen I have been up since 6am with our children and expects me to make it which is fine but then complains about how I have made it
He yells and screams all the time at our children wen he isnt on his fone long enough to pay attention to us
And I would be lucky I get sex every 3 months and even then it's just for him cos it only lasts three seconds and even then I have beg for it yep that's right
So all you mummas out there have I made a good choice ending our relationship.
I spend the last 3 years of our relationship trying to fix it and it's always one sided he doesnt change
Please help
I know I'm not perfect and I'm a bitch to live with cos im always cleaning and doing activities with our children but where do u draw the line
I have spoken to him constantly bout this and nothing has changed
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You have absolutely 100% done the right thing!
I’m amazed you stayed this long, to be honest. He sounds like a man baby.
You are not a bitch. You are doing the things a parent is SUPPOSED to do. Looking after your children and making sure the children live in a hygienic safe home.
Your kids deserve to see there mummy respected, and they deserve to see there mummy demand respect. That way they will know to demand healthy relationships in there future..
You 100% did the right thing!
I think he has checked out and it's the usual route for working away I am afraid ! Same thing happened to our family ! Away a lot selfish he could not be happy although pretended for a while yet I was so lonely and the constant criticisms and demands for attention whilst giving me absolutely nothing concrete , he finally walked when I said nope that's it your immature selfish and a dead beat dad ! A man that walks away and does nothing is not a man ! He would have left anyhow but not before he completely broke you !
Working away is not okay for families it's just unfair on the partner left behind to take the full load and then get ridiculed and blamed it's a shocking situation one I would not put on anyone !
Shame on him try just move on he has no interest anymore let him have the east life he dreams of he will miss the good life he could have had ! These men end up alone addicted and it is not our fault to mother or protect them when there only job is to protect and care for the other main person in his life! Incapabale for loving or receiving or giving unless they get something in return ! He sounds like an asshole and one you do not need! Apparently there is a lot of them
Oh f*ck yes! You’ve made the right decision 100%!!! No way in hell should you put up with that crap! There’s no way you could make that work. I think you are just in love with having a partner. Just enjoy being single for now. Your Prince Charming will come along one day and make you realize why you put up with that mans crap for so long.
I could have written this, even the coffee every morning abd when off he doesn't take kids to school because he eants to sleep in. The only difference is I was expected to have sex whether I wanted to or not. I recently left and so much happier. I didn't need him as I did everything anyway. Goodluck