How much wine is to much?

Anon Imperfect Mum

How much wine is to much?

Hey everyone
Is 6 bottles of red wine to much over an 8 day period, this included a weekend with friends catch up.
What are everyone’s thoughts?
Single mum, 3 kids, work my but off plus make sure my kids have everything they need.
(No judging)

Posted in:  Self Care

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Anon Imperfect Mum

1 to 2 standard drinks per day with a few alcohol free days is the recommended guidelines, last time I looked.

6 bottles is a lot. I’d be trying to cut back

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Short answer: Yes!

Obviously, it's probably not a huge deal if you've just had a bit of an out of the ordinary wild week but if downing 6 bottles in a short space of time like this is a fairly common occurrence, I'd definitely start being more conscious of your consumption. It's quite easy to let your drinking travel down a slippery slope when you lean on the 'I work hard, my kids are looked after' notion, so just keep that in mind.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Was it just you drinking the red wine or were they’re others drinking it as well? If it’s just you, then yes I do think 6 bottles is a lot but if it was shared then no I don’t think it’s too much

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Is it shared even so over a week is more than the norm but bringing maybe not like its every week ??? I wouldn't worry ya sound like you have it together

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It really depends on the individual. If you were asking the doctor then yes it’s too much. But it depends how you react.

Would you still have alcohol in your system in the morning when you’re driving? Can you still wake up to the children overnight? Are you actually intoxicated? How do you function when drinking?

It’s also important to question WHY are you drinking so much wine? I mean yeah it tastes okay having a glass here and there but that much is A LOT. So I’d ask yourself why are you drinking so much wine? Can you stop drinking it for weeks on end and be okay with no withdrawals?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

One eight day period doesn't explain anything. Is that every eight days? Every 3 months? Once a year?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No, as long as you are capable of parenting. It works out to be 3 standard drink per day. I really don’t see a problem with that. I’m sure a lot of us like to relax with a beverage. You are more than entitled to relax and unwind! Why is it that once we become mums we are no longer allowed to be human.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

my response that it was a lot had nothing to do with being a parent.

I wouldn’t have drunk that much in 8 days prior to kids.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It's actually over 5&1/2 standard drinks a day. But the poster didn't say if she consumed all this herself or not... A standard drink is only 100ml for wine. It's a bit of a shock when you pour that into one of the large glasses we all like to drink from and compare to what we actually do pour for ourselves...

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Anon Imperfect Mum

No, it sounds like you don't do it all the time since you've said over an 8 day period. I would have drank way more than that if there was a weekend with friends involved 😂. Lots of people drink a bottle a night. 6 over 8 days as a one off is not a lot at all.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

There's nothing wrong with enjoying a drink but you shouldn't base how much you drink off your ability to look after your kids, get to work or function in a day to day sense, you need to consider it from a health perspective! Punishing your body with too much alcohol regularly can have pretty awful effects medically speaking.

Personally though, i think drinking a bottle to ones self in one sitting (on a regular basis) is too much.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I used to drink a carton a week or probably more. I’d walk my kids to school and not drive them but we were close enough to do that. These days I probably have 1-2 drinks a night on a night out. Probably more. However over 8 days 6 bottles of wine is a lot. It also depends on the wines alcohol content. Like there’s a wine I like and the alcohol content is really low and I could drink the whole bottle without feeling the affects. However I had a pint of cider for lunch on my birthday and I could feel that.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Depends on how regularly it occurs I would say. If it’s every week, then yeah, I would say it’s too much.
If once every couple of months, not really.
Personally I hate wine but love Bundy rum. I wouldn’t drink it every day or even every week. I go to about 4-5 BnS balls every year and get off chops (my kids are at their dads when this happens).
My opinion is yeah, 6 bottles of wine over 8 days is a lot

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I think the fact you’re questioning it, means it’s too much for you.

I don’t drink much, but occasionally have one or two at night. But my guidelines for myself are always that on a week night I need to be capable of driving the kids to the hospital if there was ever an emergency. Highly doubt it but it’s always in the back of my mind. And if it’s to the point I cannot drive, then my kids need to be in another trusted adults care.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I don't think so. Only you can decide that , why is it bothering you to ask?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Everyone processes alcohol differently. I'd also say its a bit too much. Try and cut back a little if you can and have some alcohol free days.

Personally I can't get through 2 mouthfuls before wine affects me!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

1 bottle is only 4 or so drinks and you had a catchup with the girls (which is 3 bottles over a night easy), venting your stress away. I doubt you get to do that often, or drink 6 bottles over 2 weeks normally.
You do you

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Yes it’s a lot. Have you tried cutting back to 2.? if you try, you might actually realise you need it. My friend was like this and being her friend, an outsider it was definitely a problem with her. Always had excuses for it. But she couldn’t live without it. She also had her wine timer on if we were out there would be excuse why she had to go home then. We alwys new by 4pm her cravings kicked in and she needed it. just for yourself see if you can go one or 2 bottles a week and you will have your answer.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It is excessive. I was drinking two bottles of spirts over 4 days. I was in tons of pain after a crash and self medicated as I couldn’t get a doctor to actually give a stuff about helping. So when I didn’t have to drive I would drink to numb the pain. I could barely walk or sleep.

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