Hey mums,
For the last few years my husband and I haven’t been emotionally connected, to the point talking to him is stressful and extremely difficult I love him but I’m not too sure how much longer I can live like this. He dismisses my emotions regularly and all the relationship issues are my problem not his as he always says “ I don’t know how to fix that for you.” Which sort of isn’t helping when I’m trying to reach out about our emotional disconnect. Just wondering what other mums would do in this situation?
Emotional disconnect
Emotional disconnect
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Ask him to go to a counsellor with you so he can get it explained to him how to help.. I’m sorry he’s so arrogant and dismisses you like that.
You need to give him concrete things to do. Eg I feel disconnected because we don’t spend any time alone together.
He can’t fix something vague. Also if you keep talking about being disconnected, you just feel more frustrated and more disconnected.
Ask him to go on a date? Do something you used to do before kids etc together.
Have you read that Love Languages book or even just done the online test. Maybe how you are trying to connect isn’t how he does it.
It takes both of you to recognise that work needs to be done.
If he is willing to do the work with you then there is hope. We have to be open to feedback and hear each other.
Google four horseman by gottman.
If his not willing go then I’m afraid it may not change/ emotional disconnect is what killed my marriage as I couldn’t imagine going through rest of my life without affection or meaningful loving conversations