Wanting some advice please!
My 7yo son is constantly losing everything! And by everything, in the last week he's lost a school jumper, his drink bottle, his thongs, a ticket to a school event that I paid in advance for. Basically anything that isn't tied to him, gets left behind somewhere and he's useless at remembering where he last had it. I get that kids loose things from time to time, but this is ALL the time. Everytime he leaves the house with something, he'll loose it. What gets me though, is he doesn't care! Just figures “I've got spares at home.”
Ive tried so many things like not giving him a spare item (like his school jumper for example) to use until the first one is found, I've taken away his pocket money to buy a replacement, even when he has no money I make him do chores to earn a new replacement, I've tried buying him a cheaper looking “embarrassing” replacement, tried sitting him down and talking to him and ive taken things away/banned him from using things like the ipad, game console etc as punishment. I even have his teacher helping me with keeping an eye in him, making sure he's packing everything he should be at the end of the school day.
Is there something i'm missing? I'm at a loss as to what to do! I know there is the option to just not replace things, but things needed for school I need to get him new ones.
Any helpful advice would be much appreciated!
Son constantly loosing things!
Son constantly loosing things!
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Ah welcome to my world. 16 and he’s still loosing stuff every week. I never send him out with anything extra. No lunch box, just a plastic bag. Bubblers at school (although in the middle of summer I will allow a bottle of water).
He’s going OS with his brother this year and I’m expecting things to be scattered from here to Singapore and back.
I have no idea, but if you figure out a solution please let us all know, my 7 year old can’t walk out of the door with out losing what ever was in her hand 😫
Are you talking about my son ? He’s 14 now but has been losing his things his whole little life . Weekly, something is missing . This week he lost his brand new shoes at a birthday party , he went on a camp a few weeks ago and lost HALF his clothes , and not to mention over the years losing his school jumpers and school hats , his footy boots , his mobile phone , pocket money , u name it ! Literally hundreds of dollars of belongings in that time . He has ADHD and because he rushes and forgets to slow down , he loses so much stuff .
The only thing I have been able to do is inform those he’s with at the time , like school teachers , parents st birthday parties , his grandma when he’s at her place etc ... but he STILL manages to lose his stuff . I buy him cheap items nowadays so if they do get lost it’s not such a big chunk of a loss , except for his school uniform which I have to buy , and yet he still loses that too . He lost his full sport uniform last year .. only thing we can do is constantly remind them and hope they grow out of it .
They don't grow out of it. Ever heard the saying "You'd forget your head if it wasn't screwed on"? I bite my tongue daily. Hubby is in his 50's and still has no memory... Maybe they're missing a DNA gene? LOL
I think some people are just wired this way.
I am a forgetter lol, I've lost so many jackets, handbags, purses, phones, keys, sunnies and other miscellaneous stuff. I don't mean to be careless, I'm just one of those people with a busy mind and I'm not a naturally organised person so these things get overlooked.
I'm getting better though because as an adult, the consequences are expensive!
My 8 year old is also the same, i label her stuff with huge letters so we hopefully get it back if it does get lost, i pick her up from her classroom now so I can interrogate her when she comes out "Hat? Jacket? Drink bottle?" 😂
I also found her currency so to speak, she desperately wanted a Nike drink bottle like her older siblings so I told her if she could go 6 months without losing something she could have one at the start of this year. She hasn't lost it yet and has only misplaced her jacket once lol.
I hear you!!!
My daughter is 8. This week she has lost her hat, jacket, dance clothes, drink bottle, a Mobile phone she was using, her shoes lace, just one of them... and today she couldn't find just one school shoe. Maybe it's at dancing still,maybe her friends house... maybe it's in her room that looks like a bomb has exploded in and that's a whole other battle lol! Cleaning her room.
I like you have no idea how to fix it. 4 kids all raised the same and 1 just has no regard for her things.
My 9 year old son's ability to lose everything last year became a bit of a joke between my son, his teacher and I. One day he left school without his shoes 🤦♀️ like come on!!!
A number of times, his whole school bag!
Drink bottles and jumpers where a big one for him too!
Hes a bit better this year, I constantly talk about responsibility and give the kids extra responsibilities they have to do independently. Eg: feed the dog, put recycling out, go into the supermarket to get milk etc.
And we discuss responsibility for your own things and he has to put his own things away.
I reminded him most days to really try and be responsible for his own thingd and acknowledged when he did come home with all his things and praising him for being responsible.
Hes a lot better this year but I keep reminding him and telling how great it is to see him being responsible for his things.