I have a 14 month old son and now a 2 week old little girl. My pregnancy with my daughter was horrible and I was very depressed through out the last 3 months due to pain and various other problems. I ended up being induced at 39 week due to unexplained bleeding. Since being home I am having trouble bonding with my daughter. I'm feeling overwhelmed trying to cope with a new born and also a very demanding young toddler. I had my sister in law stay with me for a week to help out and I also have my husband. I am breast feeding and so far my daughter has been a fairly good baby, only waking twice during the night. I have no reason to feel the way I do. I would never hurt her, but I'm not sure if I love her? I miss when it was just my little boy and I feel so sorry for him because his poor little world has come crashing down around him and he is starting to act out a little. How can i develop a bond with my new baby? I feel like such a horrible person because she is so completely dependent on me and I just get so frustrated and over whelmed so quickly.
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Time to speak to your GP, I think you have been through so much and your GP should be able to help you get some supports emotionally. Also talk to your child health nurse
Definitely agree with the previous poster. I think you should see your GP just to ensure you don't have post natal depression.
But also don' feel as if you are weird. At two weeks they don't have much of a personality. You love them but the mind-blowing love really happens when they start showing who they are and interacting with you. For me it was at four months. I really struggled the first four months but after I cherished all the days with my baby.
Good to get checked out but don't feel guilty. It's normal at this stage!!