HI IM"s, Well i should be really excited atm, but instead im confused and hurt. Last month DP and i found out we were expecting (our first child together i already have 3 from a previous relationship) It was still early days but the Dr gave us a rough estimate of how many weeks i was, All was good until today when we went back and now have a more accurate date. Well it turns out that conception was roughly a day or two after DP returned home from work (FIFO) and he is now doubting that it is his (THERE IS NO WAY THAT IT IS NOT HIS) as he doesn't think it can happen that fast, We have had our ups and downs in the years that we have been together and i though this would be an up but its turning into a down.
How can i convince him that the baby is definitely his and it can happen in a few days
Partner now questioning paternity
Partner now questioning paternity
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Sorry Only way to make it 100% sure is a paternity test
Paternity test but unfortunately if my partner didn't trust me that would be the end for our relationship. Pregnancy can happen that quick! If he doesn't trust you it's a sign of other issues :(
My partner went on a holiday on fri 29th of Sept and we had sex the night before (28th Sept). He was away for 2 weeks. I got pregnant on the 28th. It happens that quick! Maybe google some articles on conception and show him? Only way to be 100% certain is a paternity test. That will put his mind at ease. But I think you need to ask yourself and him why he is having these trust issues? I had only been with my partner for a few months when I fell pregnant and there was never any questions from him 'is it really mine?' Because we trust each other! Why is your partner so insecure?
Don't be too hard in your partner - it's hard being a FIFO worker (my brother is one). They often feel disconnected and isolated away and whilst his lack of trust should be addressed (in a reassuring way) it's tough missing out on so much and it's quite possible his colleagues have been cheated on whilst away working and it's planted a seed of doubt - in the mean time, I would suggest reassuring him that it is his, tell him that his lack of trust hurts your feelings but that in order to allay his fears you would like to do a DNA test once baby is born so that he never has any more doubts. I'm in no way suggesting that you are in the wrong but if he needs reassurance then that is something that needs to be resolved.
Personally I would be more concerned about the trust issue. Good luck.
My Ex Questioned the paternity of everyone of our children because of his lack of trust. He didn't work away he just had no trust in me at all. 3 kids later no paternity tests and he claims all 3 as his he didn't need a paternity test to prove it you just had to look at the 3 of them. Your hubby might just need reassurance type things into google and get him to read the answers I know chicks that have fallen pregnant after having relations with a person once. Let him know that his lack of trust in you hurts and that if he wants a paternity test he can get it done once your baby is born and when it comes back that it is his he will be ashamed of himself that he even doubted you.