Oh lordy queens...the time has finally come that i have dreaded for the past 11 years......my son asking about his bio father and now his moved back to town and im seeing him everywhere even driving past my place, his bio dad knows about him and refuses to have anything at all to do with him.
i now have a husband that has taken the roll on since day dot his all he knows as a dad but iv never lied that he was not his bio dad to either of them we have touched bases about it but its a pretty shitty thing to talk about so never in depth..his a shitty person and i wish he would just disapear again but if my son wats to know i guess i gotta come clean about everything but i dont know how to approach the situation with bio dad...im so lost his not a great person and id love nothing more than to continue without him but does my son deserve to make that decision himself after i give him all the info he needs i.e who he is where he can find him..what if he gets hurt and told to leave him alone like i was i dont want him to feel that hurt...
Shitty situation..
Shitty situation..
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When you say shitty person, in what way? Would he be a safe person for yoir son to hve a relationship with?
I think the first step you need to take is find out if bio dad actually wants to have a realtionship with your son because without his active involvement your kind of at a dead end as fasr as encouraging a realtionship goes.
If the bio dad is a safe person. I would reach out to him and advise that his son would like to get to know him. You can’t control his response but you sons desire to know will get greater and social media is a great way to find things so he will work it out if you don’t work with him. Then when you talk to your son don’t give him the emotive details just facts, you guys didn’t work out he wasn’t ready to be a parent and you don’t know what he is like now as he hasn’t kept in contact? Or if bio dad does engage then his response was bla bla when I tried to reach out to him. At least if he is hurt by his dad he makes the decision on what to do next. Good luck