I’m going to get married soon.
I don’t love him, we have a couple kids and always fight.
He seems admit about it though.
I’m not even sure why I’m posting this, I feel like I’m just going along for the ride.
Marrying someone you don’t love
Marrying someone you don’t love
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Dont get married
Why get married then? You don’t have to marry him. You do have a choice. You don’t have to stay with him.
Do not do it ! If you feel this crap now imagine 3 yrs down just no
Why would you get married to someone you don’t love?
it’s obviously the wrong thing to do... and will always end badly
As the child from a marriage with no love, just don’t, you’re better off single and happy than married and miserable and so are your kids. I wish my parents had seperated instead of dragging us through years of bs and fucking us up with their resentment towards each other.
I did that. It ended in divorce after domestic violence and years of being called a retard and screamed at every day. I married because we had a child together and he was adamant about rebuilding the family he lost when his first wife walked out with the kids and he never saw them again.
Call off the wedding!
Don't marry someone you don't love, it will just make it a MILLION times harder to leave when you do get the courage to leave.
Don’t do it! I married without love because I thought I’d never be in a relationship but it ended in divorce.
Please please reconsider
I don’t know how you can consider standing in front of god (celebrant whatever), your kids and family/friends and bare face lie. Your guests will also be bringing gifts and potentially spending money on an outfit. Will you be able to live with yourself, look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day? That’s how I judge things for myself, if I can’t look myself in the mirror, I don’t do it. Stop being a martyr and do the right thing, marriage isn’t just a piece of paper, it is a licence, a union signed off by God or whoever you believe in. Don’t be a freud, take control of your life.
DO NOT GO THROUGH WITH IT!!!!
If he’s adamant about it then that’s more of a reason to run. My ex husband was adamant we get married. Turns out he just wanted to make it harder for me to escape and use it as a way of controlling me. Once we were married he saw me as a possession more than he did before we were married.
Well ok. Sounds like you don't want to but something makes you feel like it is a better option. Is that a better option for you? Why? What's at the root of that? Fear, shame, guilt, or love? Or better for your child? What thoughts do you have about single parents, children and happiness? Does it feel ok to make a decision that goes against your partner? Would you marry him if you didn't have a child? Do you feel like your partner is controlling? Some women are saying their partner insisting was a warning sign. Can you get support to think more about your thoughts and feelings? Could be free online telephone support through women's service in your state or counsellor (gp for mental health plan? Or community health centre? ). Take care and make space for you. You don't have to live up to anyone's expectations other than your own. It's your life.
Don't get married. Seek help from family, friends and professional. Good luck.