How to be a single mum? How to forgive?

Anon Imperfect Mum

How to be a single mum? How to forgive?

Hi and thank you for reading my question. First of all sorry for my English 🙂
I and my husband have married 2,5 years ago. We have a 21 months old son. My husband is a very cold person, he told me several times he doesn't love me. He says he loves our son but the truth is that he is never home, he never makes any activities with him, never helped anything when he was a baby etc...
He leaves early in the morning and arrives late and always tired and just so cold he has no emotions at all. We sleep in a separate room and even though I tried he says he is not in love and he lost his libido .... I feel like Im so alone and lonely, I cry all the time. I have no family and no help with my son.
So long story short: he wants me and my son to move out. He will pay us $500 per week. So I have to go back to work (I dont mind to work)
I just need some good advice some good words I think...
I just started my dental assistant course and I hope I can find a job...I amm 33 years old. I would like to find a REAL partner someone who loves me and my son but then I feel guilt immediately when I have these thoughts. đŸ˜« It is all sooo hard and difficult
Im filled with anger because of my husband. He took every chance of us to be a real family... and I want to forget him
I just dont want to be angry...how do you forgive someone ?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

You just let go. At least he was honest and told you he wasn’t in love rather than stringing you along :)

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It takes a very long time to get over the hurt and anger, but you will, I promise. Don’t look for a new relationship to fill the void, be single for a while, when you are indifferent towards him, you will know when you are ready. 500 a week is really good (although I dont know how much he earns so hard to say if he is being generous 😀) with a job as well, you will be a lot better off than a lot of us, you’ve got this.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Sounds like you’ve been basically “single” and on your own for a long time. He checked out a long time ago... so mentally, I know you’ve got this as you’ve already been going through the motions...... just keep going.

As for the financial side, it always works out. You might have to be tight with money, you’ll probably have to budget... you’ll probably be better off eventually because you’re going to be proactive about exactly where your money goes.

Stop being angry. It isn’t worth your mental energy. Don’t waste anymore precious anger on him. You’ve shed your tears, you’ve felt your heart break... now pick up your things, put your armour on, and get going. You’ve got this

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Thank you ♄

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