Hi everyone
So it’s a long story but the short of it is my 9 year old niece refuses to go to her dads (on her own accord) her mum (my sister) has tried to reason with her and try and support a relationship between them but I think my poor neice has seen to much and gets treated extremely poorly whilst at her fathers resulting in her not going there. He will call my neice and scream at her (I’ve witnesses it) and she tells him to stop acting like a child (how sad). She has written on paper reasons why she hates her dad numbering the reasons and stating why , some things she has wrote down are 1.Because he call me a F***ing idiot
2. He makes me clean whilst he sleeps
3. He scares me
4. I really think he hates me
5. I’m scared he’s going to hurt (stepdad).
6. He swears at me
He also has performed animal cruelty in front of her which is absoloutley disgusting.
There has been DVO/AVO and all other kinds of harassment .He called my sister 100+ in one day .
He is extremely unstable and the list goes on and on .
He is taking my sister to mediation to try and make my neice go there but sadly I think this is one case where the Child is better off with out Dad in her life. My poor neice struggles so bad and is emotional wreck and dosent even like to talk about it . This has been going on for years . What Can my sister do , as she is terrified the courts may force Neice to go to fathers or even give him custody . My sister has diaries and a lot of evidence to back her up over the years .
Has anyone been through similar and what’s the outcome ?
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My nephew refused to go about the same age for similar reasons.
If it goes to court most good lawyers and barristers will either try and negotiate with the other party before you even see a judge or will ask for a psychologist to do family observations etc. the psychologist will also speak to your niece.
It’s extremely unlikely that custody would be given to dad (and mum would have had to have done some pretty heinous act for that to occur) especially since your niece doesn’t want to go, and there is a well documented history. It’s far more likely dad would be awarded supervised visits in a visitation centre.
But your sister should speak to a lawyer or legal aid in the mean time as it will help her.
My sister has had custody for a number of years. Visits were supervised with dad.