Anon please. I have recently decided to cut my mum and her bullshit out of my life. Backstory she has been an alcoholic for more years than I can remember (I’m now 40) and I am done with her lies, manipulation and constant assurances that she will try to get better. I have to add as a family we have supported her as much as we can and got her the help she needed only for her to throw it back at us. I could write forever about what she has done - locked up for assaulting me, rehab for 4 weeks etc) the list is a lot longer and involves my dad and sister not to mention kids and partners. Everyone knows what she is like and I honestly now believe she won’t stop. I hardened my heart to her a long time ago. But my question to others is did it make you feel better? I’m guessing it will for me. Thanks
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Best thing I ever did. Was it hard at first? Yes. Do I miss the idea of having a mum? Yes but she didn't fulfill that role anyway. Do I regret it almost 10 years later? Not for 1 second sadly it was the best thing I could ever have done. She was always unstable. Then she started drinking and she bacame cruel and vindictive over made up scenarios. The cycle of verbal abuse followed by an apology followed by another bout of verbal abuse including saying she never should of apologised was exhausting and just not worth it.
Best thing I ever did was cut toxic family members out