Hey all!! So I have a split family there’s me, my ex and our four kids who we share about 60-40 custody of!! As much as I try to be friendly to him and keep the peace (there’s a lot of history that if you heard you would wonder why I would want to keep the peace) but I’ve pushed all that aside and tried to just co parent with this human being! However in saying that within the 2 years we’ve been apart I feel like his had full control over the situation as I’ve not wanted to take anything to court and keep it as amicable as possible his allowed to drop in and see the children after work and have phone contact with them whenever he wants and he awards me with this same courtesy! However at the risk of sounding like a complete asshole I’ve just had enough!!!!!!!!! Had enough of having to see him everyday, to deal with his phone calls telling me about his work life and him thinking his allowed to be involved in the time in which I have with my children!!! Yes we are a family still and yes important events should be shared together i.e birthdays, Christmas etc!! On his days he has the freedom to pick the children up whenever it suits him which limits my job life as our youngest is still ore kindy age!!!! So I guess my question is at what point do I draw the line without harming the children’s interest I want them to see us get along and do stuff as a family however I also want to live my own life with my children when I have them without feeling like I owe him something. Please help
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I think mostly you need to be separated so you can move on. I feel your idea of how close you are is too close and unsustainable. Its ok to separate and set boudaries. Good for you, even. You only need to be polite on changeover and do something altogether every so often when it comes up or overlaps for half an hour.