Hi ladies,
I really need someone to talk to and don’t feel like I can tell anyone I know cause it’s bad
I’ve been married for 7 years and with my husband for 15 years. We have a few kids and he’s a great dad, husband and overall good hard working guy. I’ve realised for many months now that I have a crush on his best mate. He’s younger and has a girlfriend and I know it’s bad but I can’t get him off my mind. We talk normally and when I’m around him I get butterflies and just want to be near him and like a teenage crush almost. I don’t know why how to stop it. I don’t wanna do anything more cause I know end of the day it’s stupid and wrong and it’s not worth it but like I said I want to just be friends and not think about it or him. My husband has been feeling my mood change and it’s getting to the point I’m changing my mood when I’m down like I’m confused with life or don’t feel whole.
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Go see a psychologist...they will be able to help u alot with that! Good luck!
This is really normal. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just remind yourself of his flaws so the infatuation dies a natural death. Getting a crush on someone doesn't mean you don't love your husband.
Experiencing a crush is totally normal. It is likely that your hubbys best mate is the only other male that you know the ins and outs of if that makes sense which is why it is him. Remind yourself that its just a crush and dont spend any one on one time with him. I once had a crush on someone I worked with. He asked me out before he knew I was in a relationship and he made me feel special. I was able to identify that it was indicating issues in my own relationship of being taken for granted. I never acted on it and it did go away with time.