Do you ever regret having kids?
No judgement please.
Do you regret having kids?
Do you regret having kids?
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Do you ever regret having kids?
No judgement please.
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I love my son, and have worked incredibly hard to be a good mum. It doesn’t come naturally to me at all.
I stopped at one and I’m very very happy with my decision to stop.
If given the time again, I wouldn’t have kids at all. Some phases of childhood I found a lot harder than others.
Never ever have I regretted it, but at times I have questioned if this is the right job for me because I feel like I don’t do it right. But I would never trade it for the world :)
Yes. But only when they're struggling and that's making me struggle. Get some supports xx
Mental health can have you feeling regret about having your kids, also your situation can, it can be so bloody hard, if youre struggling with lack of support/isolation, health issues, pain, loneliness, financially, emotionally, in your relationship, with housing stability, trying to get or keep employment, behaviourally, gosh the options are varied and it only takes a few to go bad for things to feel really really hard/impossible. We all can only take so much.
No way! It's bloody damn hard sometimes, but I never have regretted the blessing that is my 2 boys. ...... regret being with their father though!!!!!!!
No i dont i wish I had waited ( i was a very young mum) and established a career first and been finacially a bit more stable. Being out of the workforce for nearly 10 years hurts when you have no qualifications and limited past working expierence when you try to reenter.
No. I adore my kids. I had them late thirties. Had a good career, lived my twenties and settled in my thirties.
I miss a lot of aspects of my life prekids. The freedom, the lack of responsibility, never worrying... time and money to do whatever i want. I miss all that and I'll always miss it but the trade off is these beautiful little kids with sticky hands that kiss me every day and fill my world in ways no one else could.
My kids are pieces of my heart walking on earth. I have days when Im fed up with them and feel lost about my parenting but never ever would I regret them.
I kinda regret my youngest honestly.
I would have to agree with you on this, mum of 4 and maybe i should have stopped at 3. I love my youngest but wow its been hard and changed EVERYTHING in ways i thought it never would.
I would have to agree with you on this, mum of 4 and maybe i should have stopped at 3. I love my youngest but wow its been hard and changed EVERYTHING in ways i thought it never would.
That's why the saying "You only regret the kids you don't have" is such bull!
I do have depression and I was struggling when I wrote this last night. It’s definitely the hardest job I’ve ever had to do but I don’t regret it at all! I’m on my own every 2nd week and I struggle with that and bub is teething and having a growth spurt at the moment.
When I looked at her in her cot last night when she was asleep it wasn’t regret I was feeling! It was just a bad day not a bad life.
I’m so very blessed ♥️
I'm so glad you are feeling better today and don't regret having her!
Sometimes we mourn our lives before kids and that is totally normal and it is okay to feel regret at times. It would be hard being on your own every second weekend, I can understand how you are feeling :(
No, my ten year old son is the absolute light of my life, I don’t just love him, but I like him as a person, he is great company and I miss him when he isn’t around.
Having said that, have I always loved motherhood? That’s a big fat no! Toddler years were challenging, went through a divorce and had some severe mental health issues that lasted quite a while. Was in quite a dark hole for a while there.
If you aren’t enjoying it at the moment, understand it’s only temporary and you will get to a better place. You must makes the necessary changes to make yourself happy and hopefully everything will fall into place ❤️
Some days more so than others. I love my kids but I think about how easy life would be without them.
Yeah. Sometimes I do. I definitely regret having a second. But it goes without saying that I never want to give her back and I love her beyond measure but f**k me it’s so hard. I often dream of a life without kids.
I sometimes regret having my eldest as he has high needs autism. And it’s very hard and frustrating at the moment. But he is my boy. I just keep telling myself that under all that anger and aggression is a beautiful boy who loves to hug and kiss me
i don't regret my kids so much as i think they would be so much better off if i wasn't their mother.... especially on the super bad days- when my ASD non verbal son is melting at everything and nothing i do helps i just make it worse, when my patience is at its wits end, when i'm tense and cannot stand the idea of being touched just one more time, when i'm depressed and wishing i didn't wake up that morning (as in died in my sleep), when i'm sitting thinking of all the ways my kids will need psychological-therapy because i really do not have my shit together (i'm trying to get help, limited funds and limited options) ....
Basically about 70% of the time, as much as I love my kids and will do anything for them, i think i was one of those people that probably should not have had kids. i never got the heart melt swoon connection with them at birth, i hated every minute of pregnancy (and it wasnt even a bad pregnancy- no medical problems, not super bad morning sickness), i hate being touched, i love being alone and hate crowds, my own childhood was filled with fighting and being controlled by a narcissistic bitch and I keep defaulting to doing similar things and then freaking out that i'm turning out just like my mum... that i'm going to mess them up worse then she messed me up.
Do you think you might be on the spectrum as well?
I have kids with autism and identify as neurodiverse
No regrets, apart from who I had kids with!
Yes I do, especially lately because they have been sooo trying. Hubby and I are wondering what’s gone wrong. I do love them though, I love them with all my heart.