Is it just me or is motherhood so damn lonely? People you think that are there for you just arnt. I have a handful of friends and I’m always the one reaching out for catch ups and play dates to be knocked back 95% of the time. How many times is enough before you just give up!? It makes me feel like a total looser to be honest, quiet sad and very lonely.
I’m a stay at home mum and when I worked I thought I had quite a few friends but once my first born came along they all gradually disappeared out of my life. I don’t have a huge network around me as my family are overseas as are my partners. We have couple friends also with children but it seems everyone is always so “busy” with life that catch ups are few and far between these days. I sort of feel like if I didn’t reach out I would never hear from anybody. It literally takes 2 seconds to send a text and check in with someone!
I am part of a Mother’s group who catch up once/twice a week but I’m not in any of the “cliques” if you will. I guess I’m just not one of the popular ones or too uncool or what ever.
Don’t really know where I’m going with this now I guess just wondering if anyone else feels the same?
Motherhood is the loneliest journey I’ve ever been on
Motherhood is the loneliest journey I’ve ever been on
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It certainly is a lonely journey, I think you really find out who your true friends are when you have a child.
I found that those without their own kids just disappeared suddenly, I wasn't the fun person up for going out for late evenings or spontaneous trips like I once was, so I do understand that to my friends I have changed and what qualities they liked about me seem to have disappeared (but trust me, of course I'd love to be that person again but with a baby it just isn't possible).
I do acknowledge though that I am always a friend who is so "busy" but more so unpredictable because I can pull out last minute when bubs is sick or we've had an off day and I am knackered and covered in vomit.
We have a group chat with all our mum's in it and we can reply as much or as little as we want and there certainly is no clique. Maybe you're just overthinking it as I really would like to think other mum's didn't make someone feel that way :( (there's only 6 of us though)
I was never lonely until I became a stay at home mum. I joined a playgroup only to be looked at weirdly by the other cliquey mothers. I feel really boring and awkward & quite honestly have no idea how to make friends or talk to people anymore. We have recently moved back to where we grew up, and all my friends that are here don't have kids. Motherhood really is the loneliest job. You are definitely not alone in thinking that. Bigs hugs to you mum & im hoping the loneliness eases soon xxx
It gets better. Trust me.