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So this morning my OH woke me up to have a go at me for not washing his clothes.. The past few weeks have been pretty rough and I was sleeping in the spare room for a while.. I just figured, screw it! Do your own! He's been really mean and making me look like an idiot in front of our friends. Two weekends in a row he went off at me in front of them. The first time was because I asked a 'stupid' question and the second time was because he was annoyed about something. He does absolutely nothing when he's home. I do all the cooking and cleaning etc. he doesn't even help with the kids. Like at all! He doesn't even take the bins out. He will literally spend the entire time he's home watching Netflix or playing games. I'm pretty much a single parent anyway so was considering moving out. I've found a place that's affordable and have an inspection there today. I'm just worried about how I will cope financially. This place is perfect as it's not too big of a drive to school and has a supermarket across the road and allows for one small pet (which I've wanted for ages but he never allowed it). I love where we are now but he wouldn't leave and I couldn't afford it on my own. I don't really know what I'm asking or if this even makes sense I guess I just needed to get it out.. I'm not telling anyone I know, as I've said about a million times I'm leaving and never have.. We never really had that spark and now we barely even speak to each other unless it's about what to do for dinner or arguing.. I'm just over feeling like a slave and being treated like crap all the time.. Never in my life have I been suicidal and I would never ever do that to my kids but I have been thinking about it a lot lately.. I'm just at a really low point and maybe need to up my meds? Sorry for the long depressing post and thanks for reading if you got through all that crap......
Advice please or positive outcomes from similar experiences?
Advice please or positive outcomes from similar experiences?
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Relationships & Marriage, Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression
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You know what. I was a single mum from the day I had my son. I've lived on my own all that time and done just fine!
Sure I'm not rich but we can afford what we need and are very happy.
I'd much rather be single for the rest of my life than live with someone who puts me down and doesn't act as a partner. I'm not someone's unpaid housemaid!!
Good for you !!
He’s treating you like a slave and I’m so glad your leaving!!
Apply for the house! Move out!
The freedom that comes after leaving is INCREDIBLE!
Do not wash his shit. Apply for the house, pack your crap whilst he’s at work, and move the kids out. He doesn’t deserve you or the kids!
Financial - it can be tough, but it’s attainable. You haven’t mentioned if you work, but picking up a few hours might be necessary if the children are in school.
If the last house is a rental, take your name of the lease ASAP and if you own it, consult a solicitor. Now.
Good luck, suicide isn’t an option, seek help from your GP for counselling and medication support.
Don’t get a pet yet...they can be costly and you need to know what your new budget is, and yearly. Quarterly expenses are. If you get lonely at night, call a friend, or go to bed esrlier.
You can do this.
You need to look him in the eye tonight and very calmly tell himyou are not a doormat. He is NOT to wake you up for his own needs. His is NOT to raise his voice at you and he is NOT to speak to you or about you negatively. You are not an idiot, lazy, grumpy, whatever he thinks and if he tries totell you he thinks you are and you deserve it remind him his choice is to be kind and respectful to you or to stay away from you.
You dont need to up your meds you need to move out away from him.