Keeping the relationship alive with two kids (1&4) no support and both working full time? We’re falling apart. I’m terrified of losing him but I’m sick to death of him. I just want to be alone sometimes and he takes that personally. We fight over stupid stuff and I’m at breaking point. Please mummas, help a mumma out
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This is where relationship counselling comes in handy. You get to air your issues but you also get challenged to do better and told where to put your energy, kind of a regroup, get on the same page, make a plan and try to do your best for each other.
Plan date nights when the kids go to bed. Cook a nice dinner or get take out, get some wine or whatever is special to you both and put your phone's away. Watch a movie and reconnect.
Having young kids is hard. Communicate your frustration with the situation right now. Explain how you're feeling.
I agree with the comment above about counselling. Otherwise get the book love language and read that. Learn to communicate effectively. The kids aren't young forever. You will get yourselves back eventually. At some point the kids leave. Make sure you make time to love as well. Otherwise when they're grown up who will you have.
It doesn't have to cost a lot. If you don't have anyone to look after the kids make the date at home. Picnic under the stars in the yard ect.
As someone who has been in that position very recently and has been out of that relationship for almost a year now, being afraid of losing someone and loving them is not the same thing. Just because you feel terror at the thought of them leaving doesn't mean you like them as a person, or that they make you happy. I confused love and fear for too long. I wish you luck for finding your way through this. Xxx