My child currently attends Family daycare with an awesome lady. My issue is that the carer has their own child there every day also. I totally understand that kids are kids and sometimes they’re naughty but this child is rude and rough and nasty. I’ve seen her push the other little children over, hit, snatch and scream at her mother. It happens every single time I’m there. It’s not my business if this kid is a little s*** but now my child has started coming home and yelling at me and being a total little monster most days. My child was hitting but I think I’m on top of that - the hitting definitely isn’t from us as we don’t smack. Am I over reacting to think that I should be moving my child out of this care? I get that my child is 2.5yrs old and will have some of this naughty behaviour as part of their development but I’ve just seen my lovey little child develop into a little brat that I’m constantly rousing on. I can’t talk to the daycare lady about her child as I’ve seen her get away with it while I’m there. I feel super awkward to bring it up. The carer has admitted to me that her child is out of control. I guess I know the answer here but just need advice and reassurance. I love the carer but don’t care for the child or their nasty ways.
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I think I'd move my child if I were in your position. The fact that you don't feel comfortable to bring it up says enough really.
Just as a little perspective though, children of Family day carers can find the whole thing really difficult. I mean, you've got this little toddler that has to share their mummy with 5 other kids all week. I've known a few FDCs that have had to close their businesses because it was just too hard on their own children, acting out like in the situation you've described, so just keep in mind this lady might be having a really tough time at the moment too.
Good luck 😀
I knowww! Waaahh. I totally don’t want to put more pressure on her. And you’re 100% correct. I can’t imagine my child sharing all of their own toys let alone their mum! I really feel for her and her child. Then on the other hand I think I have to prioritise my child and their well being. What a dilemma! Thanks for your advice!
I’d move my child. I was the child of a family day care worker. Mum would have had us for breakfast if we behaved that way to the daycare kids. Yes it was difficult but not disciplining her child won’t help or make the situation better for her son.
At the end of the day you have to Do what’s best for your child.
You're describing normal behaviour. My son didn't do that at that age and was perfect... And now we're dealing with it all now he's at school lol. Whereas my daughter did all of that at 2-3 and at almost 4 it's all been done and dusted for ages really.
Don't stress about your daughter. Only move her if you don't like how the daycare lady responds to those behaviours.
I would move her and watch her flourish.
I considered moving mine not due to the carers child but due to another child who was there some days and even on pickup i could tell that a whole day with that kid would be hard work and in a small setting its hard. One of the downfalls of fdc.
But your concern is for your child, their care and their environment.
Move your child. It's not worth the stress.