Mummas, I need help!
I am at breaking point with my 6 month old. He has been a handful since he’s been born, but those last few weeks have been a real test. From the minute he wakes up to when he goes back down, he has to be held. If he’s not, he will scream and scream at the top of his lungs. I’ve tried leaving him to try, both next to him and away from him, but he literally will not stop - he will go until he loses his voice and has burst blood vessel in his eye from screaming so much.
He’s always been a little sooky, but I can usually get at least half an hour at a time where he’s happy to sit on the floor and play. He is quite advanced for his age - he can sit up on his own, he’s got his 2 bottom teeth, and wants to stand up all the time, I think he will walk before he will crawl! And he does have reflux, but that’s been managed with medication.
I guess what I want to know is - when does it stop being a case of him being a young baby who just needs to be loved and held for security and comfort - to it being a problem? It’s really causing a lot of tension between my husband and I, it’s so stressful and to the point where we can’t take him out anywhere because he screams the place down. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?
Breaking point with my 6 month old
Breaking point with my 6 month old
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I had a baby that cried. She now has chronic tummyache and sensory issues. She turned into a gem when she could talk but then it split into half beautiful child half screaming child ie) bedtime, getting dressed, going inthe car.
Im sure it all goes back to why she cried so much as a baby.
We never went out with her, gave up trying to go to restaurants it was all too hard.
I would say note it all down for future reference. Keep checking and asking for medical advice. And just accept what youve got, and do what you can help him. Try different carriers until you find something that works it will save your back and your mind to be able to cuddle him and be hands free.
What happens if you sit on the floor and play with him? Is it that he's frustrated he can't get the things he wants or he literally just wants to be held all of the time? Is he happy to go to your husband or somebody else or he only wants you? 6 months is about the age my little girl seemed to either be attached to me or wanted me to constantly entertain her. She spent a lot of time in the baby carrier - I have a manduca so she could sit on my hip and see what was going on and I could get stuff done. The jolly jumper and a walker/activitycentre were also lifesavers.
He could also be getting more teeth or started having separation anxiety. Have you started on solids yet? Could that be causing issues?
I'm sorry that you are struggling 🙁
To me it sounds normal I'm sorry to say. My kids were like that and my second child (now 9 months old) is like that. He doesn't like to be held by anyone but me and if I'm in the room he will want to be held by me only. I find that the baby Bjorn is great and also giving him to someone else (my mum) and hiding works for awhile. It is tough but at this point separation anxiety is an issue for them. It's hard but it will get better.
Best of luck mumma. Xx
I think this is pretty common for reflux babies (in my opinion anyway). My son was very similar to yours, I had doctors and health nurses tell me he was "colicky" which is code for "we actually don't really know what's wrong". I had 2 daughters after him without reflux that were so chilled I really believe reflux was a huge part of my sons distress.
Eventually we figured he had reflux, even once that was under control he was still very demanding and sooky and I really think it was a comfort thing. I've suffered reflux as an adult and it really is awful!
I found my son was worse if he was teething, going through a growth spurt, unwell or reaching milestones.
My son is 10 now and he's the most quiet, mild mannered one of our bunch. The constant screaming dulled down a bit when he turned about 1, he was still quite a demanding toddler but one day he just started getting easier.
Starting on solids made an improvement in my son too.
See a naturopath. Look at his diet and vaccination side effects
It’s not normal, although you’ll be told it is and all sorts of other crap. We seem to accept all sorts of issues now as ‘normal’ childhood problems. Look at what your baby is ingesting and being exposed to
Leave him with a friend etc for afew hours so you can get a rest. You sound exhausted ... which is no r.al but please look after yourself.
Take him back to his pediatrician and have his medication looked at.
Tilt his mattress-si chin is higher than feet and make sure he is using his bowels.