I was molested/raped by my 13-14 yr old brother when I was only 8-9 yrs old.
I have never told a single soul.
It’s always been at the back of my mind, but lately it’s all I can think of. I feel sick to my stomach.
Is it too late to tell anybody??? Will it cause more harm than good??? My husband will want to kill my brother!!
I feel so alone
Help!!!
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I think the best thing to do is speak to a counsellor or psychologist. They can help you work through wether you wish to disclose or not.
Speak to a professional about how you feel and what you need to do to accomplish freedom. Do you need your brother out of your life? Do you just need it out in the open? What are your realistic expectations of what will happen when you bring all of this to the surface?
I was 30 years old when i came out about abuse in my family. I confided in a parent when i was a child and it was swept under the rug. Bringing it all out at 30 years old was freeing. It was challanging for my husband to accept that people he had formed relationships with werent who he thought they were. But he supported me. In turn i was abandoned by all of my extended family. Every single one. To this day, not one of them have been interested in what i haf to say.
You do what you need to in terms of personal growth. But you must also Accept your truth may not be accepted by others. Its hard. But the first step is speaking to a psychologist.
I have experienced almost this exactly. He never ended up raping me but he sexually abused me and was grooming me for rape. Even the age difference is similar. I held my secrets in for years (I was abused by others as well). Telling someone and cutting him off was the best thing I ever did. It still hurts. It hurts so much but a small part of me is free. People know and almost everyone supports me. The shame and secrecy is his now, I don't have to bare that anymore.
My partner also wishes great harm on my brother but I just remind him he is not worth the pain it would cause. He will get his due.
You are not alone and it is never too late to tell someone. You are amazing and brave for even sharing your story here.