I am a single mum of two, I have been seperated 3 years and my ex husband .. Was in active service in the army.. He has PTSD and was quite violent before he was medicated and at 34 was put on a full TPI... I don't regret my separating we are good friend and likewise with his new partner.. But I took up drinking as company:-(
I work full time running my own business .. I'm a fantastic mum, my home is clean, I provide private schooling for my kids.. Of
Course there isn't much left !!! I'm feeling like a failure .. Can anyone relate ?
Alone and drinking
Alone and drinking
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It can get lonely at night. I used to find the evenings loooong! If you think the drinking is not an addiction perhaps it's time to start a hobby/reach out to friends you've not heard from in a while/ or consider getting out dating! If you think you've crossed over to addiction don't think of yourself as a failure it's so easy to cross that line but look into AA. Meetings offer a great support network too :)
I agree the evenings can get lonely once the kids are asleep, you may also find your drinking is more a symptom of how you relax. I did this with smoking, after the kids went to bed I would go outside for a quiet moment to mark the end of my day. this is when I would have a cigarette I was not addicted but it was my way of relaxing and giving myself afew minutes. Now I read or have a bath. if you think you might have over relied on a drink or two speak to your GP or research some support groups.
Give yourself a break. I don't think having a drink to fill a void or help you sleep is a bad thing. My grandmother would have a brandy (or two) at night because she missed my grandfather. It didn't hurt her. She wasn't an alcoholic over it. I had a drink a few times a week as a single mum and also now I am married. As long as its not taking over your life then go easy on yourself. There is a HUGE difference between having a few drinks and being an Alcoholic. Its socially acceptable for a lot of men to come home from work and have a few beers while the wifey cooks dinner so I believe it is also acceptable for a woman to come home and have a wine or 3.