Would like to know how other mums have gone in this situation. I'm sure I'm not the only mum.
My husband and I are struggling to find some alone time as our son is apoor sleeper; he just finished getting his molars and we think are now getting the canines. He also has issues breathing and are currently awaking surgery to remove adenoids. So you can only imagine the sleepness nights, so our son sleeps with me with me and my hubby in another room. How did other mums go when no quality time was achieved with their partner. Did things get better
No alone time
No alone time
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This is where grandparents step in and babysit for a night so you can have some time together. Even if it's just once a month it's really important to stay connected. Otherwise get creative, daytime dates can be awesome if you don't want your son doing sleep overs :)
I feel your pain!! We were lucky that the sleep issues were due to having moved house so no health issues with bubs. My baby had been co sleeping with me as she couldn't settle in her cot or in any other way except by feeding to sleep or occasionally rocking to sleep (actually it was a combo of rocking, bouncing and patting!). My hubby had been sleeping in another room and I found it challenging to sneak out as she was on the bed so I was conscientious about her safety and also she would wake after the sleep cycle and not be able to resettle without me. After about 4 months with this issue we went to Ngala (a not-for-profit agency in WA) where they helped us sleep train our baby. It essentially is listening to the type of cry and responding to them according to what cry it is. They were also happy to take it as slowly as required. Happy to go in more detail if you want but my bubs is sleeping so much better now and I'm getting so much more time with the hubby :)
You are not alone. Now with 2 children (1+3), we struggle. at least one of us is at work every day, the older child is past naps, and the younger shares our bed as I would be too exhausted if I had to get up that many times a night (we did the getting up thing with our first, was too much). So there is no time for just the two of us anymore. We know we'll get there though. In a year's time, the younger should be sleeping in their own bed, maybe even sleeping through. This phase of our life will be past, and we'll get our space back