Hi everyone back in 2010 I lost a son. We got him cremated and have his ashes with us. My 2 year old daughter decided to take his urn out of his box ashes included, my hubby walked in the room before my youngest ate him. I guess my question is how are some ways I can help my 2 year old understand not to touch her big brother? I had a major cry as I though he was gone my heart broke into pieces again but fortunately he is all there.
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I think this is probably a really big concept and a little abstract for a 2 year old to understand. I'd keep her brother out of reach in a very special place that you know she can't get to until she is older. Take him out at special times and look at photos and talk about him and how precious he is to you from time to time.
I think she is too young to understand its her brother but she is old enough to know some things yoyr not allowed to touch. Teach her not to touch it and place him higher up. Teach her its very importent to u n we dont touch it. As she gets older you can help her understand its her brother.
Sorry for ur loss xxx hugs
They should be up high she may not understand who it is or what it is but now would be the best time to start saying no to touching it but what i don't understand is why did u have them low enough for her to reach them when they should of been up higher in the first place
Thanks for the reply. She actually climed up quite high to get him so he has been moved
Ur daughter sounds like my son, sometimes high out of reach places don't exist for them if we put a toy or something out if reach he would move heaven and earth to get it usually pushes a chair and climbs. I would suggest finding a new place for the ashes perhaps a glass cabinet, I would also give her a picture of her big brother and explain to her why we look after the ashes u would be surprised what they can understand if u explain it enough times
Would it be plausible to seal your son's urn ? And I agree that your girl may simple to young to understand the meaning