Since I was a kid I've watched my nephew (9years younger than me) be abused mentally by His father who is a narcissist, abusive **** and manipulates everyone around him to make him look good, giving out money, shouting people to dinners etc. I think it's his way of covering up how shit of a person he is! He swears a lot and is so arrogant.
Anyways I've sat back and watched enough, I'm now old enough to realise this is not right, especially me being a mother I cannot handle it anymore. My poor nephew is practically screaming for help while everyone around him are blind. He's 16 now failing at school, suicadal, depressed and unmotivated! I don't know where to go or what to do to seek help! My sister is so blind to her husbands lies with his manipulative behaviour! Help!
They have tried counselling and medication for him but I think this is just a bandaid for his years of constant abuse and neglect from his father!
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If you honestly think it's abuse report to FACs, have you spoken with your sister?
I'm not saying that it not abuse but know one really knows what goes on behind closed doors, but it does sound like your close enough to know something is not right.
Are you able to have your nephew for a weekend so you can have a chat with him and get his feeling and thoughts?
Have your nephew stay over under the pretence of him 'baby sitting' for you. Let him know that you know, and that you are here for him, that it's not his fault, tell him you want to help, offer a variety of suggestions i.e. You go to school with him to speak to school counselor, or a doctor, you contact child protection, he lives with you, temporarily, part time or full time.
Talk to your sister. I'm sure she knows, but maybe she's been worn down and broken by it all. Imagine how much worse it is behind closed doors...