Hello beautiful I.Ms
just wondering if anyone here has found themselves in the position of giving birth 'alone'...by alone, I mean just them & the health professionals in the room.
a few months out from my due date & I have been dealt a few 'blows' to my birth plan...
firstly, support I thought was there is non-existent...extended family are not interested in this birth it would seem & have no plans on being here to help when the time comes- this means that hubby will step up to the plate & care for the children we already have (this is the only option we have currently).
secondly, due to a few complications it is possible that I may have to deliver at a hospital that is NOT the one I want to & also means that my doc. most probably won't be present for delivery etc- this is FREAKING me out to say the least.
sorry for the ramble, just feeling a bit lost & alone...
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Get online (facebook) and find to group called "call the student midwife (Australia)". This will then give you the opportunity to connect to a student midwife who will then be able to follow you through the pregnancy and be there on the day as your support! If the hubby can't do it, then this would a great options.
Alternatively, look into a nanny service which you will be able to sort out beforehand and then when the time comes, get the nanny to look after the kids whilst hubby is with you.
My second birth everything was planned down to a t life never goes as planned i went into labour at 430am 2 weeks early woke my partner up at 6 he called his parents to come pick up our first child they were late partner decided to get mr 4 breakfast befor coming up so he was in a the maccas waiting park as i gabe birth.... Mid wife walked out because they were short staffed he had to quickly grab somthing...i was literally alone in the room while i gave birth to my youngest son it was so scarey but you know what the fact i did it myself i cut his cord myself was actually so empowering it was an expirence i wouldnt change ever for anything good luck my friend youre a strong women youve got this
Yes, with my 3rd labour. I got a taxi too the hospital because my partner had too stay with our younger 2 who were sleeping (it was 5am) - & it all happened very quick. I didn't know any of the midwives or the doctor who delivered my daughter, & it didn't make any difference IMO. When your going thru labour, things get personal & full on FAST. I didn't care who was comforting me or attending too me, as long as they got her OUT!!!!!!!! I reckon I handled her birth 100% better than my previous 2, as my emotions took over having my mum & partner with me. I focused solely on listening too the midwives rather than trying too seek comfort from my family. 2 particular midwives were beautiful, purely holding my hand & wiping my forehead, sitting with me throughout my contractions. No matter what happens know you will be ok, & as long as you birth in a hospital (not a car or something 😘) you won't go thru it alone. Some superwoman do however (as I seen another poster comment!) & it all works out ok in the end.
It was something we had to consider when we we're expecting our 3rd (I expect plenty of people have been in this situation).
We had a 3 year old and 18mth old at home to tend to. Funnily enough, not many people are willing to babysit 2 kids that age overnight lol. We ended up getting my MIL to watch them, which I wasn't fully comfortable with so I probably would've been less stressed if hubby was at home with them, I'd have known they we're ok then. Even though my hubby was there for all my births, I had beautiful, caring midwives there too (and if I'm being honest they were probably more help haha) so you won't be alone.
You do what works for your family xx
I hope all those lovely ladies who commented on the Imperfect Mum page get to see this, along with the lovely ladies who have commented here...
thank you SO much to everyone who took the time to comment, it means the world to me that you did so xxx
my husband & I have looked into every option we can think of & still come up with nothing...it is OK, I am coming to terms with this new development as is he- I am not exactly thrilled by it but I need to roll with the punches that come my way.
I do take comfort in knowing that I am not the first (nor will I be the last) mum to be in there alone...I just hope that I have some super amazing professionals in there with me when the time comes :)
Yes with all my pregnancy
I agree with the others about hiring a Doula. I would of liked to have one even with my mum and partner was there. It was very traumatic for me and when everyone went home I was so alone, depressed and experiencing flash backs of the pain