I am so lonely. I keep reading other people's social media and it makes me feel a failure. am I the only mum out there who has no friends?
I am so lonely. I keep reading other people's social media and it makes me feel a failure. am I the only mum out there who has no friends?
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No, you certainly are not alone! I can't speak for others however I have a load of "friends" online that I tag in stuff everyday on Facebook (funny memes and what not) but the reality of seeing any of them in person is slim.. I see people maybe once every 4-5 months tops! It's lonely
Nope. We moved interstate 7 years ago and I know no one. I haven't been able to get a job which hasn't help with my self confidence and my only child in now in high school which means there is less interaction with other parents.
Scrolling through your Facebook news feed is the easiest way to feel lonely and inferior. I used to get jealous when I'd see what other people were putting up on fb, going out for drinks, going on holidays, girls nights etc but then it occurred to me, our social media profiles are not a great representation of our real lives. Some of the most desperately unhappy people I know seem to live this exciting life of social events just going off their fb accounts, but in reality it's far from the case.
My advice, put yourself out there.
Suggest a coffee date with other mums, join a play group, join online mother's groups, reach out to old friends and try to reconnect.
I know it's hard and awkward making friends as an adult but you're definitely not a failure.
I know what you mean.
Social media can definitely make it feel worse. You are seeing a snap shot of everyone's lives, you aren't seeing the entire picture. Just one moment where that person was out socialising.
My only friends that I actually see or do things with are related to me. I see them about once a month. That's my only social outlet.
I do things that make me feel less lonely. I joined a swimming class, the ladies all chat in between laps. It makes me feel more connected and although we don't see each other outside of swimming I would say we are friends.
No your definitely not alone! I feel like this every night
I used to be so active on social media posted everyday, when I met my new partner we moved states and I noticed I am never active on social media (posting or statues etc) and I only wrote the other night on here how lonely it is!! I don't know how on earth u make friends these days
It's hard but I feel kind of not alone reading this
Xx
Nope. I have no friends ( thanks to my ex). I have been going to a mums fitness groups, trying to make friends there but man it is very hard. I live in hope I will have a close friend I can rely on close by.
How do we get in touch with you? It's a hard enough job being a mum without feeling lonely x
Where are u located? Can't have u lonely, like jacqui said being a mum is hard enough. I actually run a mums fitness group and i know a bunch of girls who stay connected through it
I only follow people on FB who show all their real and raw glory.
If I'm feeling particularly vulnerable or overwhelmed with life's challenges, I'll avoid social media and instead, step out into the real world, go look at the water, go for a coffee, a walk, chat to someone, anyone. If you're feeling upbeat and confident, you'll attract people. I always talk to random people, stop and pat a dog or smile at a baby, compliment someone on their outfit, etc
My life is pretty isolating, as a single mum of special needs kids on a tight budget with my own health issues. I find any contact with humans to be fulfilling, simply chatting to the person serving you in a shop, chemist, doctor receptionist (it's a small clinic), barista. I attend support groups where I can connect with other mums with ASD kids
I have always said..the people who make out constantly how great their lives are ..are usually unhappy in some way.. and unfortunately I have proven my theory to many times..eg. this person would always tell me all the great things they did as a family..it used to make me think my family was flawed as we didn't even come close to their great life..then I found out his marriage was breaking up and lots more!! I have found this many times..I don't Have a lot of real friends..and the good ones I do have I don't see as often as I would like so no sex in the city style life unfortunately..but I attempt to put myself out there and do my best to get involved..I made some good Friends through my second child's school..not even one through my first!!! And I hate my babies play group as I can't connect with anyone there :( but I've learned to accept that I'm just never going to have lots of friends so I'm happy with what I have..hope you make some connections soon :)
I am the opposite I wish I had more alone time. I am too busy to feel lonely, working part-time with home life, looking after big and little man ( no friends) . All you can do is get out there and find out what your interests and passions are and try to find places/clubs/groups/ hobbies that have like minded people to hang out with. Do you work or study? Is there any social gatherings with your work or study life?