Ok so I have two children, pigeon pair, my youngest is 4 and at preschool 3 days a week but for 18 months now I have had a lingering thought about possibly wanting a third child, like the typical getting clucky when seeing a newborn, imagining my 2 with a baby brother/sister etc but now its escalated to the point I am looking at what items ill need, working out with my husband the sleeping arrangements as our 2 will need to share. Problem is most people ive spoken to who have 3 have said its SO much harder than 2, in every way.. basically I feel like I should be happy with the 2 children I already have (which I totally am by the way). Absolutely everything I read is negative about having a third about it being the most stressful etc. So from real people with honest answers, am I crazy? I know that you dont regret the children you have but I have a primary schooler and preschooler, sleepless nights are a thing of the past as well as nappies and feeding around the clock.. any opinions?
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Here's the deal, the people who aren't happy make a lot more noise about it than those who are happy.
If I go into a restaurant and have a negative experience I'll let everyone I know how shit it is. If it was a great experience I won't tell anyone.
I'm one of three kids, I always planned to have three. It was fantastic being one of three. I stopped at one for a number of medical reasons but three is still my preferred number.
Plenty of people who have three go on to have more kids, if having three was that awful nobody would have 4 kids.
I've got a pigeon pair too but I am definitely not done. I'd like another one or two. But mine are still young and they were 23 months apart.
I think I'd like a bigger age gap between #2 and #3 because pregnancy is hard and I want to give my body a break. But I'm also dreading going back to the nappies and sleepless nights considering I'll probably be out of that stage with my two by the time number 3 comes...
The way I see it, is there is always pros and cons to every choice. You've just gotta decide which one suits you best.
I just know I want to experience a third pregnancy, a third newborn and three little mini men's and mini partner running around... maybe even 4.
I am one of three. The eldest girl with two brothers and it was great!! Loved it.
I have three. Honestly going from 1 to 2 was harder than 2 to 3. By the time you have two, you have the kids routines all sorted. When number three comes along, you just mix baby in with the original routines.
I had the same feeling you have for a long time, I also have a little girl and a boy. My daughter is in school next year and my son in kinder one day a week. I'm due in march with our third baby! Like you all I've heard is negativity and it made me start to dread the thought of this baby coming into the world but then I took a step back and thought about it.
Everyone handles things so differently and I have amazing support from my husband and family so I will be fine. And most of those people saying negative things to me have 4 or more kids so it can't be that bad right?
I've only ever heard people say 3 was the easiest, I have 5 now, but by far my favourite pregnancy and time was when I had my 3rd, and so so so many people I know have said the same, so much so this post sounds quite weird to me lol
My feelings for wanting a 3rd was intense!! We finally got a little girl..big gaps so sleepless nights and nappies and all things baby definitely forgotten about..pregnancy was the worst as I'm always so sick but with 2 at school I'm loving my time with my little girl!some days are hard like any family..but it was worth it for us :)
If you don't have a third I feel you'll regret it! It sounds like your heart is in having 3. I have 3 and I didn't think it was much harder I already had two under 4 so it was already chaos lol. I do find they argue having 3 of them and we have to remind them not too exclude one in games. I think if you want 3 go for it! The positive outweighs the negatives.