Does my ex have a right to write about missing our son on social media when he hasn't made an effort to see him in a year? Or even write to me and explain why he's cut him out. He doesn't work so it's not like he's busy and I'm not preventing him from seeing him. It doesn't seem like he's coming back any time soon. How can he miss him and not make an effort to see him. My son also hasn't been invited to any family events on that side since he stopped seeing him either or recieved any presents or even just happy birthdays from his last birthday. Or even a phone call. What am I meant to tell my son when he starts asking where his dad is? He will probably start thinking about in when father's day comes along because he's started school this year
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Best to cut off socila media so you dont see it. Yes he could cut his own kid out then have a pity party, I guess he still has feelings and a gross lack of self reflection to declare it on social media without taking any accountability or making any chnages. But its not your problem. Seeing it will only make you emotional.
My ex probably says the same stuff. I wouldn't know because I blocked him on social media years ago. My sons an adult now, he still hasn't made any effort to see him.
Block and move on. You know the facts.
I've been clear with my son that his father isn't able to be a Dad, so he felt my son was better off raised by a capable Mum. Of course that's putting a spin on it so my son understands it was never because my son wasn't worthy of a father, more his father wasn't worthy of him.
I know it's frustrating but you should try really hard not to feed into his bullshit. I can almost guarantee that the intentions behind the fb post/s is to gain himself a nice little pity party and to get under your skin. My cousin does this, portrays himself as the victim, he just fails to mention that the reason he has very limited supervised visits is due to substance abuse and domestic violence, he might get a few 'likes' but most people are intelligent enough to know that there's far more to the story.
Not only is your ex making an ass of himself but anyone who's an important, involved person in your sons life would know it's untrue, so I'd really try to not pay attention to what he does on social media, it'll only piss you off.
I know lots of kids who're growing up with 'uninvolved dads'. Honesty, they don't miss what they've never had. Sure, days like fathers day won't be easy but your son will grow up and be so appreciative of all you did for him.
Ignore it. I fled DV. Moved interstate. 6 years ago. My kids father has seen them once, 5 years ago when I took them to him! My 2 older kids are friends with him on fb. This stuff comes up regularly. My older girl is 15. She calls him on his crap. Sharing posts about fathers rights & mothers withholding children. The best is about mothers getting CS while fathers go broke... he owes me 18 bloody thousand dollars!!!
Let it go. Acknowledge it, then let it go x
By the way... Father's Day is my day too 😉 I do 100%, so I will take the credit!
My daughter was 3 when she last saw her father then again 6 years later then disappeared again .. I stop trying to get her father to see her... when ever she ask about him I was honest and said he lives in (city) now and has a new family... she accepted it... she's 16 now and has worked him out for herself... as for social media block block and block if u can..
My Ex brother in law does the same thing telling everyone my sister is withholding his son. It is to the point my sister was abused in the street by his aunty, when my sis set her straight reading from the journal she keeps on her at all time stating dates and times he said he would care for "his son" and never turning up! Their eyes started to open. You do whats best for your child and be honest
My sons father hasn't seen him in 4 years in 3 months. He still writes on fb that he misses him and happy birthday to make out im the bad one. None of his family have made an effort either.
Does he have a right to do so? Probably not. But I don't care, he is the one that hasn't made an effort, he can make out I'm the bad one, all my friends and family know the truth.
My son is now 5 and he hasn't asked where his biological dad is or what he is like. He calls my now Fiancé dad, he knows that he is not his dad but chooses to call him that, I did not expect my son to call him dad whatsoever, he started calling him dad after seeing my niece with my brother and he decided to one day call him dad, when I asked why he said that my fiancé does everything that his uncle does for his cousin.
I would say forget about him and move past it, I know I've been a lot happier since I have done so.