So I have just found out I'm pregnant! This would be our 4th. We have 3 beautiful healthy kids. I'm shocked and don't know what to do. We were careful and even got the morning after pill to be sure in, I even had my periods last month so I was sure this wasn't possible. I have started studying and working, hubby works away. We would need a bigger car and would have to make the kids share a room. In my mind my head says 1 thing and my heart says another. I feel like this pregnancy would be unfair to my other kids as I struggle with the ones I have. Can't see myself with another baby. My girls are 5, 2 and a half and 14 months. Don't really know what I'm asking.
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First off, congratulations! I imagine it's a huge shock as you felt you were safe - give it a few days to sink in and revisit how you are feeling. We can't tell you what is right or wrong but you will make the decision that is best for your family
Honestly only you can make this decision and it sounds like it will be a tough one especially if you're already struggling. If you are asking if you think you should keep the baby, we cannot answer that for you. No one else knows what it's like for you and how much you are struggling. Give yourself a few days to have a really good think about things and go from there...good luck with whatever decision you make.
This happened to me I terminated my 4th and still regret it 😔
Awww hun I'm sorry you still regret. You made the decision that you thought was right for you and your family. I hope you find peace in your decision soon
I would seek help from a unplanned pregnancy group, have a huge discussion with your partner and see what he is feeling as well. Yes I know if in the future you both split you more then likely would have the kids but his feelings shouldn't be pushed aside either. I think it's meant to be, bub has survived the morning after pill and everything else. Please don't rush a decision of termination and end up regretting it. I wish you all the best. Also maybe a councillor could help. Talking to an outsider might be just what you need to make the decision that is right for your family.