Mum's, I know I'm going to sound stupid, and some will laugh and say 'get used to it', but my babies are growing up, and I'm not handling it well.
I can't have more kids for medical reasons, but am blessed to have 2 healthy girls (5&7).
I feel like it's all going too fast.
I spend as much time with them as I can.
But it's not enough.
As they get older, they won't need me.
They are my world.
My youngest got her first wobbly tooth the other day... I welled up.
Am I alone in this?
What makes this easier?
Kids growing up
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What makes it easier is having other interests and continuing your self journey apart from your kids. I know that probably sounds odd to you now, but all kids grow up and leave the nest, so it's important to have things apart from our kids that are passions and interests that keep our self worth up and it does make it easier.
Also stop focusing on the child years as the only years that count, I can guarantee that my 23 year old is just as interesting to watch change and grow as he was when he was a baby. There will always be a new stage, a new development. I'm just as excited that he grew a beard, as I was when he started school.
My parents have celebrated the day I started HRT (yes, I'm THAT old) as much as the day I got my first period and the day I took my first steps.
I'm feeling that too lately. My kids are 16 and almost 13. I'm suddenly all too aware that I won't have them much longer. They have been a part of my life full time for so long and now it feels like the end is nearing. The feeling has taken me completely by surprise. No advice sorry, just wanted to let you knows get it.
"As they get older they won't need me"...WRONG! Oh love, ypur daughters will always need you. The ways they will need you will change, but they will. My gosh, I'm 26 and I still have times where I just need my mum and I'm lucky she only lives half an hour away. My mum is one if my closest friends!
See their progressing independence as a chance to do something for you. There is no crime in that! Do you have a hobby you can enjoy?
This is the "quickening era" even with a day off to myself it just goes too fast. It never felt like this a decade ago. I agree with the others look into foster care if you love being a mother so much, so many children out there with parents who don't care as much as you. Find hobbies that your passionate about to bring more joy and creativity in your life. Your children will always need you, the needs just change. My oldest brother 43 lost his job and had a divorce he lives with mum temporarily, till he is back on his feet. My other brother 40 is a mummy's boy hardly worked a day in his life always relying on mum to help with everything. Teach your children to be independent, considerate, healthy and respectful that's all you can do.
I still feel like this & my kids are 28, 19 & 17. I'm pretty sure it will be like this till the end as my mum says she feels the same about me.
Having said that, my kids are loving, funny, intelligent, independent & capable & productive humans. My eldest 2 no longer live with me but we speak several times a week. All 3 come to me for advice or just to talk. And all 3 tell me they love me at the end of every phone call. And all 3 still call me mummy if they are sick or sad.
I swear my eldest only learnt to walk last week, & now she is a mum herself. (On a side note...having grand children...best thing ever!!!!)
Don't listen to the negative comments. It is possible for your children to be your world, as long as they also get to have their own.
Being a mum was/is the best 'job' I've ever had.
It makes you sound like a wonderful mother x I'm 33 and 5 weeks ago my partner of 18 years ( we got together when I was 15) has been diagnosed with cancer and the outlook isn't great I had no clue what I was going to do , then my mum just turned up with her pillows and has moved in with me while my partner is in hospital so no matter what age your kids get they'll always need their mum x