I need help. 30s special needs child.
The last two and a half weeks I've been on a real downer. I just can't shake it or bounce back to my old self.
My child has been hard work I admit. I'm a single mum. I don't think its just that probably apart of it. I also currently have a father who doesn't help himself or do what he is meant to do simple everyday things. He is quite elderly. I look after them both.
I can't eat, sleep, relax nothing. Forcing myself to do certain things like have a drink and something to eat. I feel numb and tired and sick in the stomach. Currently don't even feel like i can look after myself which I admit I haven't been. I feel like I'm going nuts. Everything is so loud or I'm imaging it there's dust and things everywhere at home and nothing is tidy. Currently hearing ringing in my ears. hearing and thinking things I normally wouldn't. Ive never been like this before. My child is currently at respite where I believe he is better of at ATM. I really need to snap out of it for his sake. Currently have a referal to a psych and a couple of other things in place. I've asked my child's dad to please help which is complicated as he lives in another state. I've been doing things that are out of character. I'm not sure really the point of this post seem my minds all over the place. Maybe just good to vent
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Have you spoken to your GP? If it's an emergency you can present to your local emergency department. If you need someone to talk to straight away you could phone lifeline on 13 11 14
Have been to g.p and got a referal to a psychologist.
My child is suppose to be coming home Thursday. I'm so worried I'll be still like it and he deserves better ATM than me being like iam.
I have never been like this before
That's a really good start. I'm a single mum to a now adult son with a combo of disabilities, one which causes behavioural problems. There is help out there to get you through this time you just have to know how to work the system a bit.
Your son would rather be with you than not, and it's totally ok to not be at your best for now. You are human and parents are allowed to be sick too.
You can ring the commonwealth Carelink centres and arrange someone to help you out. Basically someone can come to your home as a 'respite carer' and they can help you out for a few hours a day. The phone number is 1800 052 222. I've used them when I've been physically or mentally fragile and they have been very helpful. Sometimes that's been doing some cooking, cleaning, washing etc to take the pressure off of me, just a few less things I've had to think about a do, makes a work of difference.
From my experience this is a sign that things need to change. What services is your dad receiving? You can phone your local council and organise housework services, food shopping services, hygiene help, gardening etc. anything that will take the pressure off of you.
Youve pushed so hard youve frayed your nervous system. This is stress, depression, anxiety. It affects us physically. The good news is you can get help. you will have to change things to take care of yourself, and that will be hard for you to even think about., he psych will help you.
Read what youve written above and think how you would take care of that woman. She needs help! She needs TLC, rest, peace, love, calm, enjoyment, relaxation.