How do other parents make sure there child doesn't feel different. My child at school or any activities outside school can't have photos due to her father not knowing where she is/where she attends for very serious reasons.
The thing is tho I don't want her to feel different but it's also for her safety that no photos are shared around of her at extra curricular activities or in school uniform.
How does everyone manage this? I don't want her to feel different but I want her to be safe!
Problem is it needs to be addressed with other parents and how photos or videos can not be put on social media etc and than this creates an issue because I can not monitor what they do. Let's say she does gymnastics. Parents take photos or videos and they can do what they wish. Sports days at school etc. it's for safety reasons her photos can not be shared around and the places are great with it but ultimately it's the other parents that I don't have a say.
I don't want her to feel different or anything. I want her to do what she loves still but I also worry about others actions with photos or videos. There's something coming up where parents can watch and video take photos and it's gotten me worried about everyone sharing these on social media. I do t want her excluded from these things but what else can I do?
Child's safety/photos/videos/social media
Child's safety/photos/videos/social media
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Some of this will depend on your exact situation. If your daughter doesn't have a social media presence (and you've always kept her photos out of social media) then if the occasional photo slipped through it shouldn't be an issue. It's not like the parents can tag someone in a photo that doesn't have an account. He would literally be having to scrawl through random accounts and pictures to find a child that looks like his. I'd be making sure I didn't have a social media account.
If your daughter does already have photos on social media and you have tagged them or labelled them as her then he just needs to plug in her name and all photos would come up.
I think on this one you just have to trust that people are going to follow the guidelines set out by the sporting clubs and schools that I've experienced that say, only post photos of your own child.
I think a quiet word with her team mates parents at the start of the season and leave it at that. I know how you feel my son got offered to be on TV and I had to turn it down.
Schools and daycares need your signed consent to publish your child's photo online/social media pages. I would not sign that one & explain to the appropriate people as to why.
Same with sporting clubs or any extra curricular activities, if they have a website or social media pages affiliated with their brand, they must have your permission to share your child's photo on these platforms (you can take legal action if they breach this).
As for sports day at school, our school has a very specific notice in the upcoming weeks, that you must only upload pictures to social media that include your own children, most parents are pretty good at adhering to this.
The real issue lies with other parents, any parent with a shred of common sense would not share pictures with other peoples children but some parents/people don't take safety concerns into consideration. It's usually not meant with any disrespect, the safety aspect is something a lot of people don't have to think about.
You do need to make your wishes known to anyone with regular contact with your daughter though (other parents, teachers, relatives, party hosts. Anyone who may be in the position to take such photos basically).
I wouldn't exclude your daughter from participating in her favorite activities on the off chance another parent might upload a picture with your daughter in the background, it would be really unlikely for your ex husband to come across these photos.
Also, you can alter your fb/Instagram settings -should you have an account on either- so that people can't tag you in pictures. I'd also block him and any of his relatives, or anyone else he may know. Lastly, ensure your accounts are set to private and you can also make your accounts not come up in a google search.