Hi ladies,
I’m in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend due to his work. We’ve been separated for 4 months and lately we’ve only been able to talk using his work’s satellite phone. He’s meant to be coming home soon but I have been feeling a range of emotions about it. I hate that he’s been away for so long even though I’m happy he’s doing this job – I’m nervous to see him or have sex with him because I feel like it’s been so long and I’m still the same plain Jane I was when he left. Basically, I’ve been struggling with my self-worth and feeling like he won’t like me when he comes home again – I don’t know how to deal with it. In most areas of my life – work/study/health – I’m doing well – I’ve lost weight since the BF has been gone. But I don’t connect to my own successes or self worth at all. I just feel so down on myself and I want to fix it for both me and my partner….
Thank you. X
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From what you've written, it sounds like you're having self doubt and not embracing your body more than having emotions about the long distance side of things. I was doing LD years back with an ex, it was a bloody tough gig and I always got a bit nervous when it came time to see him. I wanted to feel and look my very best. I always went to over the top effort of doing a tonne of makeup, buying new sexy lingerie and going out of my way. But at the end of the day, just seeing each other was the most exciting part and it made everything just so much more real. I could have been wearing a potato sack and the enjoyment when we finally got to embrace would have been the exact same.
It's normal to feel nervous, don't think you're just the same old plain Jane! We don't really change much in our lives, my husband must think I am the most plain and boring Jane around town because I haven't dyed my hair in over a year, haven't changed my looks, not my weight, nothing.
It really is mind over matter. Try and love yourself a bit harder <3 <3