Well I was finally pregnant. Wrote in 8 days ago. Too good to be true.
I'm miscarrying again.
My heart is breaking. I can feel it breaking into a million little pieces. Why does this happen to me? We aren't vain or nasty people, we love each other and have all the love and want in the world for a child. Our child would be perfect.
How do I move on? How do I keep trying to have a family if this heartbreak is all I am experiencing? How do I not look at others and despise them because they are crap parents!?
My partner keeps saying it's ok, it's NOT ok. I'm NOT ok.
I loved this baby before I even knew it existed.
Rest easy my baby. Know that mummy will always love you no matter what.
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I am so sorry, I know you had been trying for years.
I'd recommend looking into counselling services to help you through these hard times and definitely consult with a GP to find out why you are miscarrying. Just know that it doesn't mean you are a failure and please rest easy knowing there is nothing you could have done to stop this occurring. Miscarriages occur because your body has recognised there was something not right and terminated accordingly. Have you both had your sperm/eggs tested? You could have a look down the IUI path so that you are having the best chance of obtaining a healthy egg and sperm match.
Big big hugs, it isn't okay but you will be okay, in time.
I'm sorry and this isn't about who you are as people. This is terrible terrible roll of the dice.
Sorry for your loss
My heart aches for you sweetheart.
Life is so unfair sometimes, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
My great grandma told my mum after 3 miscarriages "This baby wasn't meant for this world, this is natures way of making sure the baby you bring into the world is the one that is meant to be here "
It didn't bring much solice at the time but my mum says it made her realise women have been having the same issue since the human race began, there is no rhyme or reason, it just is.
My mum went on to have 6 children - all naturally. So it can happen, just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't.
Maybe it's time to be tested, get checked and make sure everything is firing correctly.
Good luck!
Don't be disheartened. There is hope, I promise it'll work out for you; I have no doubt. I too experienced over 2 years of trying/specialist appointments etc and a miscarriage and I'm now sitting here writing this while breastfeeding my2 week old baby. I often wondered if I would ever get the chance to be a mum to a biologicL child - and I did. My advice, get the help, get a referral for a fertility specialist from your GP; I became really proactive in finding out about my body and it paid off. Don't torture yourself, get the help. It could be something as simple as taking progesterone to help maintain the pregnancy. Chin up babe, it'll happen. Believe it will.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I too have had 2 mc while trying for my third child and was starting to lose hope but I went and saw a gyno and as soon as I was pregnant and we could see the baby on the u/s I was started on low dose aspirin and i got my rainbow baby. If you are not already please go and see a specialist that deals with mc I hope you get your happy ending ??
Im so sorry hun. Its utterly devastating. The best thing to so is be open with your grief, dont feel you need to hide it. Feel it and let it go. Its a horrible thing to go through and is definitely not fair. I wish you all the luck in future and hope this is the last time this happens to you.
I'm so so sorry for your loss :(
I want to share my experience with you to give you a glimmer of hope. After 3 miscarriages I was put on progesterone and asprin which then resulted in a healthy pregnancy. My friend also had 8 miscarriages and when theyd lost all hope and gave up trying she finally had a healthy pregnancy. I am so sorry you are going through this. I just wanted to tell you that there is hope. Much love to you xx
I've had 9 miscarriages. I had 4 prior to my first daughter (5 this year) and 5 prior to my 6wk old little man. The moment I knew I was pregnant this time, I went straight to the doctor, told them my history and was medically supported to help give bub the best chance of survival. If he didn't stick, we were going to investigate why it was happening. It sounds stupid but I had refused to before that because I was scared there was something wrong with me. I couldn't face being the problem, like I was killing my babies. I finally accepted after 6 years that it wasn't my fault.
My point is that, it's hard and there is nothing worse but miracles do happen through the heartache. I have 2 perfect miracles <3
Hang in there honey..big hugs and love to you... your feelings are completely normal....I have miscarriaged and it is a truly horrible and sad experience....the feelings of jealousy, sadness and guilt I had was enormous I found talking about my feelings with trusted people and women who had gone through it too helped....I agree go to Gp/gyno for some tests and help for your mental health if needed.....I am blessed to have my rainbow baby....many good wishes to you and hugs...let yourself feel don't let anyone minimalise your feelings oxoxoxo
I feel your pain. Be nice to yourself and dont carry blame.
We had 4 miscarriages in just over a year. I am now 39 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby. The joy is almost as huge as the pain was every single time we miscarried.
Your partner will try and console you ... but it is so very hard for them to watch our pain and not be able to do anything to "fix" it.
I would recommend seeing a specialist as all I needed to help was a dose of progesterone T the begining of the pregnancy and daily i take "baby aspirin" really low dose. Thos worked for us but everybody is different. Big love to you xo